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When to decide??

Chelsea, on June 13, 2020 at 7:54 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7

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So my wedding is November 14,2020. Me and FH have finally came up with our plan b to have immediate family only ( parents, step parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, 1st cousins, nieces, nephews, significant others of immediate family, majority grandparents are deceased & my living grandmother will be staying home due to older age and scoliosis). When should I decide to go ahead and do Immediate Family only? There’s a part of me that really wants to do it now, but there’s also a part of me that says wait until September. My wedding will be in Texas where covid did spike up, and my future husband family is traveling from Mississippi. FH is down with any decision I make, just need a little help from fellow brides/ wives.

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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 13, 2020 at 7:59 PM
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What did your venue say? Did they give you a deadline to when you’d need to decide by?
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Dedicated November 2020
Chelsea · on June 13, 2020 at 8:02 PM
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I went to venue yesterday and I asked that question. They told me every weekend they’ve been having a lot of events, the biggest one they had was 180 guests! So I’m guessing there’s no deadline or nothing. They’re saying it’s a go for all events.
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Kerin · on June 13, 2020 at 9:25 PM
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If it's what you want, there's really no reason to wait. If you've already sent save the dates, you should send some announcement of the plan changing to any people who will no longer be invited, before invitations would normally go out. There are several posts about how to word an "un-invitation" on here the last few months and lots of input on how to word it.

Good luck!!
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Kristen · on June 13, 2020 at 9:45 PM
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I would say August the latest. If you want to do it now go for it but maybe just let your guests know that if things do not go well it will be an event limited to immediate family and maybe you can plan for a larger reception later.
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VIP August 2020
Katie · on June 13, 2020 at 10:02 PM
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Hi Chelsea, I’m 8 weeks out from my wedding and we are currently reducing headcount due to COVID. Honestly I wish I would done it earlier. We hoped and hoped for the best, but there is no escaping it for me. You can always add more people on, but you are very smart to be thinking of this earlier than I had.
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Sinaya · on June 13, 2020 at 11:36 PM
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So it seems like your venue is pretty much back to business as usual, so the choice to go to plan B is yours. If you know for sure you want to do plan B then why wait? The more notice you give guests the better. If you're on the fence on going to plan B, definitely wait until your sure about it, but still let them know by August at the latest. Heck I would even say July if you have to notify people you previously invited, or sent save the dates to, so they don't start booking travel arrangements.
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Expert September 2020
· on June 13, 2020 at 11:48 PM
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I would say September. Trust me I know its difficult to plan when you dont know what will happen but logistically theres no reason to postpone before then. The situation is changing every day and could be long gone by November. From personal experience, we postponed a month before and it was pretty seamless
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