When to ask bridesmaids

From what I found out, set your date first and depending on the date ask them like (I don't remember exactly) 3 to 4 months before the date.

Most girl recommend not to ask before a yr out, maybe 6-8 months. There's a lot of horror stories out there about bm drama and losing friendships. I'd say wait until you at least pick a date.

Pick a date and I would stick for around 6 months prior to ask.

Wait until you pick a date, and then wait until you're like 8 months out at the earliest. You could need up to 4 months for some BM dresses to come in, so if you want something specific don't wait until the last minute.

Do you have someone like a sister or best friend that you absolutely KNOW will be your MOH? I did, so I asked her early and that helped with my itch to get started, but I waited on the others.

6 months prior to your confirmed wedding date seems like a safe bet. Enough time that it isn't too far in advance but also allows a couple of months for dress shopping, ordering, and receipt.

ETA: I'd make sure you have a venue first, that determines your date. Then you can do the 6 months prior asking of the bridal party.

We got engaged last August, we booked our venue last October. I waited to ask my girls til after that. It was more towards the end of October... so right at a year out. I could have waited but I don't regret not waiting. I haven't had any problems with my 3 girls. Everyone is different. I don't feel like you're too far out to ask, you've got 10 months.. but that's just me. Maybe do what @LizzyC suggested if you have someone you know will be your MOH and go ahead and ask her?

I would wait. We hear stories on here all the time of brides who ask too early and then things fall apart between them and one of their bridesmaids. Generally, it's just better to wait.

I always respond to this question with 12mos-8mos out. As a bridesmaid, it has been much easier on my wallet to budget well in advance for a dress, shoes & whatever else I need for the day of the wedding. Also, some bridesmaid dresses may take a few months to come in.

Eta: I have read stories on here about relationships changing and backing out, but in all reality that could happen 12 months out up to the day of your wedding. Plus, you can't always anticipate everything life is going to throw you. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding that one of the other girls didn't show up to the wedding because she was in the hospital. It really didn't make any difference to the actual wedding. We were just relieved to know she was getting care.