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Just Said Yes May 2020

When to announce the wedding date?

tlovesorcas, on August 9, 2019 at 5:15 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

Hello! My fiance and I recently became engaged. We have been talking about getting married in May 2020 for over a year. He is the youngest in his family and has two older sisters. I am 24 and he is 23. We both have good jobs and are completely independent. His oldest sister is very opinionated about long engagements and that there is no rush. His parents are also in this vein of thought. We are very nervous about how to tell them that we will be getting married less than a year after we became engaged. Has anyone been in this position before? What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Jenny, on August 12, 2019 at 8:09 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    They’re welcome to their opinion, but that doesn’t mean they’re right. Simply tell them the date and move on, don’t entertain any kind of arguments about it.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
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    I agree with Caytlyn! Once you get the venue booked and your date is saved (if it isn't already), tell them what they need to know and they can do what they like with that information. No need to be nervous. Everyone is an adult and they need to act like one.

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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
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    10ish months sounds just fine! As long as you and your FH are prepared to do the work in that time then go for it! My cousin is planning a wedding in like 4 months, which I think is cutting it a little close LOL everyone does things differently!

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  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
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    Agree with PP! Don't let outside opinions impact you and your FH's decision. It's your wedding! (We sent our save-the-dates two months after our engagement.)
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  • H
    Super September 2019
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    Agree with pp. It's your engagement and your wedding. Everyone will always have a difference in opinion, but that's just how it is. What works for one won't always work for another.
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    It's not their engagement or wedding. It's yours. You and FH get to make all of the decisions. Get used to it. Everyone has their opinions and likes to share them. You do what makes you happy.
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2019
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    They are entitled to their opinions but if that is the date you want to get married on then go for it! It’s your wedding day. We went with a long engagement just because of school and I wanted to say he’s my fiancé as long as I could until I got tired of saying it. But now I wished we got married a lot sooner haha!
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  • J
    Dedicated October 2020
    Jenny ·
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    It is your wedding and your special day. People will always have something negative to say, but the most important things is that you and your fiancé are happy... let people talk and gripe and moan... get married on your time... whether it is 6 months or 6 years!
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