When should you have the bridal shower ?

Is someone planning the shower for you? You shouldn't be planning a shower for yourself.

And it doesn't really matter how close to the wedding you have the shower - it's what whatever works best for the person or people hosting it.

I'm having one shower 1.5 months before the wedding and then a second shower two days before the wedding. My mom is hosting the second one and chose the week of the wedding specifically so more OOT family will be around and can come. I think it's too close, personally, but it's what she wants to do and my OOT family is fine with it.

My future mother in law is throwing me one for their side in March and my mom is going to throw me one for our side. I just wasn’t sure what the etiquette was or if there even was one lol

Honestly I think that's a perfect amount of time. Pre-wedding festivities often help build momentum and excitement for the big day. As long as it isn't too close to the big day to where it makes you stressed, but honestly, all you should really have to worry about with the shower is writing the thank you notes afterward. Make sure you have enough time to do this, but it seems like you should!

I think I've read 2 weeks to 2 months, but further out is okay too. I'm having one shower on April 28th, and our date is May 26th (4 weeks apart). It was just a weekend that worked with everything else our families have going on in the spring. Yours is 3 weeks apart, so that should be okay. Just depends on what else is going on and what date works best for the host too.

View Quoted Comment Date twin!! How's the planning going?

My BMs are hosting mine Feb 17 and my wedding is May 19. My FMIL was annoyed it’s going to be “too cold to wear a nice dress” (for her, not me) but it was the only weekend that worked well for everyone. I’m perfectly happy with it being a few months before the wedding!

My BP is hosting mine. BS in April and wedding in June

I think that's fine. I'm getting married March 3 and mine is Feb 10. It just worked out for the people hosting it.

View Quoted Comment Hey! Planning is going good now! We took a break over the holidays, but we're in full planning mode now. Just ordered invites this past weekend (Basic Invite had a sale going on), and we finally registered.
How's planning going for you?