When should i start talking about it?

Hi Christy! I think when you chose your venue and place a deposit you may gain confidence it will really is a go!! Congratulations and hope nothing gets in the way of your day ❤️

View Quoted Comment Hi Katie,
Thank you... by the way, how do I edit a post? The date should read October 15, 2022. My finger must have slipped. I cant figure out how to change that.

I would tell people once it gets closer, but I would be honest with that they will be attending a commitment ceremony rather than a wedding. Is there a reason you decided to have a commitment ceremony rather than actually get married?

View Quoted Comment A lot of it has to do with my son. He has a disability and what money he gets through his ssi would be affected by marriage. (My fiance would be his stepdad) we rely on that to help make ends meet. I do intend to make it clear its a commitment ceramony. Neither of us really want to wait until my son turns 18 to do this, even if its not legally binding. His parents are also getting older and may not be around when kido turns 18. There are other reasons but thats the main one.

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Okay that makes sense. I wish you luck

View Quoted Comment Thank you, veronica :-)

View Quoted Comment Hi Christy!! That’s a good question- try going to your messages to see if an edit button appears. I couldn’t figure it out either 😂

View Quoted Comment Hahahahaha!!! It would figure that i would goof on my first post and not be able to fix it! Thank you, for looking, Katie.

I would wait when it's 9-12 months out before telling ppl

View Quoted Comment Lol!! No worries at all ❤️

View Quoted Comment You can only edit on the desktop version of the site, not on the app, and only for a certain amount of time from initial posting time.


Also, I would just tell people when you're ready. Your celebration isn't until October 2022, so you still have plenty of time. I would maybe tell people sometime next year. Most save the dates don't go out until 9ish months out, so you're fine keeping it between you two for now.

I would not start telling people til 7-9 months out. And because there are things you are unsure of, don't use save-the-dates.
Instead, do what people did before the very recent invention of Saves, and most still do for mostly local weddings, or ones where plans are not sure. Contact by phone, letter, or Email, any priority guests who would need an extra long time to travel great distances or get time off from work. This could be 5 months, or 9. Others, when everything is carved in stone, no changes, you can phone or email or mail at 4 months, or simply send invitations out around 10- weeks to arrive in guest's home by 8 weeks put. That is the standard because most people find that is enough if no Visa or long distance travel is required.
You are committed when you send a save, or tell someone you are invited. They are not committed til they get the actual invitation, though if you call to give advance notice at 3-4 months, many who already know they cannot come, will tell you. Then you simply do not send the invitation. And may invite others with a regular invitation at 8 weeks. ( this is not B listing, which occurs after invitations have gone out.)

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the planning advice, but we will handle that as we see fit when the times comes. I hadn't planned on sending out invites just yet. Its still too early, I get that. but just talking about it with people im closest to, I wasn't sure on the etiquette on that. He has already told a few people (I dont have an exact number) but I've only told my sister so far.