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Just Said Yes March 2026

When should i start planning?

Caitlyn, on July 18, 2024 at 4:50 PM Posted in Planning 1 1

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Hi,

I'm having a dilemma. My wedding is not until March 2026, however, it is unique in that it is a CRUISE wedding.

I'm also not the richest person so I've been doing a little bit of light planning here and there in order to figure out just how much I'll need for the wedding. I think it's appropriate to start planning now because of all the differences between this and a normal wedding.

My mother disagrees. Every time I bring something up to her she says "it's too early!" and then grudgingly helps me with whatever I'm asking her about. It's to the point where I've just decided to shut up about the wedding to her, but I can't really do that if I'm supposed to be figuring out the guest list for the room blocks, etc.

I also want to send out the Save the Dates earlier than is normal (I hear like eight months is "normal" for this?) because I want people to be able to save up for the cruise. She disagrees with this too and says I shouldn't send them out until like February/March of next year, a year out from the wedding.

I'm not sure what to do. It seems like a good idea to do some planning now, but am I ahead of myself?

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Rikki · on July 19, 2024 at 4:46 PM
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There's no harm in early planning especially for a cruise wedding. I would def look into cruise lines that does wedding and look at their packages.
There's no harm in telling people the plan and when it's going to happen early. I think 8-10 months out is a good amount of time to send the real save the dates but that doesn't mean you can't send people a message with some basic information. It would also help you get a better idea of head count because if someone can't do cruises or doesn't think they can make it, then you know way in advance.
I prefer to have things planned so I don't feel rushed when the time comes. Do what feels right to you. I'm sorry that you Mom is acting that way. Maybe talk to her about how it makes you feel like you can't talk any wedding stuff with her. I understand you have time but you're also excited and you're not planning a normal wedding.
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