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When should i consider pushing back my wedding date?

DanteNicole, on September 22, 2020 at 3:41 PM Posted in Planning 1 18
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My wedding day is April 3, 2021. We're already in September and nothing has changed when it comes to the pandemic. My wedding planner said we should consider to make changes in Jan. and my fiancé said to hold off. I'm really paranoid now and not sure what I should do, should I down size my guests or change dates?

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Latest activity by Amanda, on October 5, 2020 at 5:39 AM
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    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I would start thinking of a backup plan now, but don't finalize anything or make any definite decisions until around January, just so you can see where the pandemic is at that time. Maybe reach out to vendors now to see if they will allow you to postpone, and also if they'll put a soft hold on a new date for you until you make a decision in January. There's still a lot of time between now and then, and things can and will change. It's tough to know which direction things will go, but by having a backup plan ready to go, you'll be prepared just in case you end up needing to postpone.
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    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    Also, I would suggest putting a COVID section on your website now, so that guests can stay updated with the latest restrictions, any precautions you're planning to take, etc.
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  • Haley
    Savvy July 2022
    Haley ·
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    I moved my date out. You’re absolutely right with the pandemic. My original date was October 2021 but I didn’t want to miss out on all the pre-wedding events like engagement party, bridal shower, etc so I moved it to July 2022. My fiancé’s family lives in New York and the current travel restrictions are keeping us from celebrating with them.
    If you want to move dates get in touch with all your vendors and see what they need to move your date. My venue charged a fee but all my other vendors agreed to move it with no issues. For me, there are too many people I want to invite to downsize my guest list so postponing was my best option.
    I’m sorry the pandemic has impacted your planning. I hope all works in your favor! I know the big day will be wonderful
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    Expert April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    At this point, I really think it depends on where you are located, what the restrictions are like, and your personal level of risk tolerance. I postponed from October to April and my wedding is in the Southeast. If the levels in April are what they are today, I'd go forward with it. The only problem is the restrictions, specifically a quarantine order for guests (and us) in the Northeast.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine Online ·
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    My wedding is March 27, 2021 and we are waiting until December/January to decide what we’re gonna do with ours
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  • Minimalist Bride
    Master April 2021
    Minimalist Bride ·
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    I've decided to downsize my guests significantly to just our parents.
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  • Sharonda
    Devoted January 2021
    Sharonda Online ·
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    You still have a lot of time. However, I would recommend that you and your fiance begin discussing alternative plans, determine what that will be, talk to your vendors (to get an idea of what they are willing to do and if any cost is associated with any changes), and then be prepared to move forward with those plans in January, if you need to.

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  • Keisha
    Savvy August 2020
    Keisha ·
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    We had ours amid the pandemic. I’m in Illinois and we can have gathering of 50 so we only invited family and a few close friends. It was everything I hoped for.
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  • Kia
    Dedicated September 2021
    Kia ·
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    I was 7 months out from my September wedding when I decided to postpone back in February. We postponed by a full year because that’s the furthest they would let us without having to pay a fee. Go with your gut. It’s sad, but postpone if you feel like you need to, do it
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  • Neeva
    Rockstar September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Make a plan and decide what it most important to you as a couple- what are your must haves...dancing, large guest count, grandparents, someone from overseas, no masks etc. I personally think covid and restrictions will be here for many months to come. Start working on restrictions for your wedding and what that would look like or consider postponing. Having a smaller wedding was wonderful for us and we have no regrets!
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  • Natalie
    Devoted December 2021
    Natalie ·
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    Our original date was set for 04/11/21 and we’ve postponed to December 2021, and a huge weight was lifted off our shoulders! I feel excited about our wedding again.
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  • Michelle
    VIP April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Our date is 4/3/21, guest list is 80 & we’re getting married in AZ. There hasn’t been any talk of postponing.
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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2021
    DanteNicole ·
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    Wow! That's an amazing idea! Thank you!
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  • Michelle
    VIP April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I’m your wedding twin- getting married on 4/3/21 in Mesa Arizona. I agree with the previous statements that it depends on what region you live in. Check with your venue.
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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2021
    DanteNicole ·
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    Please keep me posted and I'll do the same!
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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2021
    DanteNicole ·
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    My and my fiance said that we are leaning towards pushing it back to April 2022. We still want to be married on April 3 2021 so we would get married in the courthouse instead. We'll make this change only if things don't change. I don't want to downsize and people will be flying in, airplanes aren't the safest. Even if cases are getting low they're still cases and I personally don't want anyone getting sick bc of our wedding. Thanks, everyone! Your comments were such a help. This is our backup a plan not official.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine Online ·
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    Definitely!
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  • Amanda
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    Amanda ·
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    IMO if you want a "normal" wedding with pre-wedding festivities and full wedding day amenities (no masks, no restrictions) or a normal honeymoon, I would not book ANYTHING and postpone to mid-late 2022. Nothing is going to be normal until there is a readily available vaccine and that's looking like late 2021 from everything I have heard. We have been engaged since December 2018 so we are going to have our little "masked ball" with 75 guests from original 175 and call it done. Pandemic planning is stressful and if I do not wish it on anyone. Good luck with your planning but seriously do all your research and talk to FH about what you would be willing to sacrifice.

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