When should i ask my bridesmaids

I asked mine as soon as we booked the venue so I knew the date wouldn't change and I could get cards printed. If you know y'all will stay friends/good through this process, I don't see any reason to wait!

I asked mine at about a year out. Some people will say this is early-ish but I was super excited and wanted one less to-do on my mind.

Hi Maddison! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! I think its best to ask them as early as possible to ensure they're able to participate, as everyone has different schedules and duties they already have to tend to, so the sooner the better. Since you already have a date, I would schedule a time to ask them within the approaching week or two so you can begin planning with them. I also think our Bridesmaid Dress Shopping Timeline article will also be a good resource for you! Good luck!

Mine is may of 2019 I wasn't planning to tell people until our engagement party in August as a surprise but my sister's knew they would be apart of it and I slipped up over the weekend and told another bridesmaid and she very excited and is going to check out the venue with me next weekend

Congrats! 6-8 months out is recommended, so that would put you around January/February of next year.

I went against what most people say but really this is up to you!!

I asked my MOH at the beginning of this month,less than a month after getting engaged, because it made sense to ask already as she moves cross country for several months shortly, and I wanted to ask her FTF.

I haven't asked my other girls yet but probably will this fall As long as you keep them informed, things should work out. I have a target date that isn't quite booked, but will update them when things happen

I say ask them 9-10 months in advance as you usually need to go shopping for bridesmaid dresses 5-6 months out.

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I did as well, but waited about a month to let it all sink in and create their BM/MOH proposals.

I am getting married in August of 2019. I have already started putting together my proposal boxes..i know people say many different answers...i just followed my heart...if they were to fall out they will fall out even a week before the wedding..so yes why not do it when you are the most excited to do it. I am aiming for July or maybe the August when I can do the one year countdown

I agree, the sooner the better. Especially if people will need to take time off of work. It helps to know for instance 3 if my 20 PTO days in one year will be dedicated to a certain event.

I agree the sooner the better! My work only allows us to take one weekend off a year and we book our vacation 18 months out. Also, both my friends that I stood up for waited about 9 months into their engagement to ask me, and I started feeling like they weren’t going to ask me.

No to the sooner the better, lol. Too much time for drama, people changing minds, relationships change. I would ask 6 months out.

I'd say about 6 months ahead is fine, unless it's a true far-away destination wedding. I've seen way too much drama on here that could have been avoided by just waiting a little longer to ask the bridesmaids.

I asked mine before we even officially had a venue :-). I got scratch off cards from Etsy that were personalized with each girl's name and organized by title. You can ask whenever you want. Always go with your gut when it comes to the wedding decisions

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This is not good advice. Asking over a year out is too soon, as relationships and commitments can change. We've seen here numerous times brides complaining about asking their bridesmaids too soon, because drama happened, and their regrets for doing so.

6-8 months, OP. No sooner.

If the wedding is local, I say wait for 8-6 months before the wedding.

So many things can change during this time, relationships change, and wedding party drama is a real thing.

The only thing your wedding party has "duty" to do is to purchase the dress of your choice and be there for your wedding day.

Make sure to discuss their budgets (individually) before you pick a dress to make sure everyone will be comfortable with the price tag.

Remember that even being part of your wedding party doesn't mean every friend will be super excited from beginning to end, some will also not be available for your every time you schedule a fitting or a shopping trip wedding related. Don't take that personal, and remember the bride mantra: No one will be excited for your wedding as you.

Keep an open channel of communication by continuing to be a friend first, then a bride. Call/text with the things you usually do, don't make it all about yourself or your DIY projects that need to be done - it is crazy how we get caught thinking about our to-do list more than anything else, and sometimes we can scare people away even when we don't mean to.

And last but not least: ask in private & keep it simple. I have recently said no to a friend that asked me to be in her bridal party. It was my personal choice because of things I have been going though and she was disappointed. However, we were able to have an honest conversation and deal with it since we were alone. I would have felt very uncomfortable if she had asked me at the same time and place as she asked the other girls, and the conversation could have gone all wrong because of the way I would be put on that spot. So don't be that friend. Be mindful and ask in private first. If you want to then celebrate with everyone that said yes, plan something with all your girls after and have fun.

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Agreed. This will also give them plenty of time to save up if needed.

I asked mine right away! It took me about a week to create the bridesmaid proposal boxes, but after that I had delivered them right away. I wanted to do it ASAP so people could start planning/saving/ and get just as excited as me!

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No one will be as excited about your wedding as you will.

Ok well, name-calling is against the CG's, number 1, and number 2, we say that here, so brides don't get disappointed when their bridesmaids don't want every conversation they have with you for the next year and half to revolve around your wedding. Because they don't.