When Should i Ask My Bridesmaids?

Christmas proposals would be so cute! I would love if brides asked this early so we could get down to planning! ❤️

If you know that you have a solid friendship with them and there will be no falling out then go for it. Like the people in my bridal party have been around for yearsssss also so I wouldn't having a problem asking them early, but if it's someone you've only known for a year or so that's where the problems can happen.

You should ask them anytime betweem now and March.

You should ideally ask your bridesmaids 6-8 months in advance. You can invite the girls dress shopping (for your dress) without officially asking them to be bridesmaids. I know you said you've all been friends for years, so you don't foresee a falling out, but there's a thread every week or so on here about people thinking the way you are and discovering they made a mistake.

My wedding was originally planned for March 19th, 2021 (almost date twins?) until we rescheduled due to covid. That said, I did my bridesmaid proposals between September and December of 2019, so about 15 months before the wedding. None of my bridesmaids live locally so I took the chance to give them their proposal boxes whenever I got to see them but I also did it a little early because I wanted some of them to be able to come dress shopping with me that March (which also got rescheduled) and give them plenty of time to budget and plan for travel for the wedding, bridal shower, and anything else. Two of my BMs are my sister and FSIL, and the other three I've been friends with for 10, 8 and 4 years so I felt comfortable asking them early.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this, except I would ask between 8-12 months out. Relationships can and do change, and even if they don't change, you probably wouldn't regret waiting to ask. You could always ask them in February, around the time that you're going dress shopping? That would be close enough to 12 months out without being too soon. Otherwise, if you are 1,000% confident in your decision, then I do think a Christmas bridesmaid proposal would be really cute!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this, although I think asking up to 10-12 months out is okay. Relationships can, unfortunately, change quickly.

My wedding is set at the end of 2022 and I already did my bridesmaids proposals. I say it’s never too early, if the people you want to ask are solid, will be there for you and support you no matter how far away your wedding date is. But if you do it early, just make sure You keep them in the loop about what’s going on with wedding planning, even when there’s nothing for them to necessarily do. Christmas is fine or you could even bring in the new year with asking them to be in your bridal party. Best of luck to you💫

I asked my bridal party 8 months out. If you do it too soon, you risk someone saying yes before knowing what life will throw your way. Also, there is still always a possibilities things can go south in a friendship.

I asked mine over New Years in 2018 (going into 2019) for my Nov 2020 wedding! I also was close to my girls for 5+ years and didn’t feel the need to wait!

Everyone has given you good reasons to wait, but I wanted to mention another downside of asking too early that I have seen represented here many times. Even if there are no falling outs/relationship changes, asking well over a year in advance just puts so much pressure on your loved ones to get and stay excited/involved in your wedding planning that can't possibly be sustained.

So as long as you are really sure about the solidity of the relationships AND very careful to keep your expectations about their level of excitement/advance participation reasonable (that is, zero), then go ahead and ask them early.

You all have been so helpful! I think I'm going to wait it out. Perhaps I'll do something Galentines themed instead!

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What a cute idea!!! That is brilliant!

Do it whenever you'd like! We got engaged last September and our wedding is next October. I ended up asking this September, so just a little over a year in advanced.

Ive also had this same thought, my wedding will be May 2022, so about a year and a half. Looking at the comments i think i have an idea of when to ask.

View Quoted Comment That is a really cute idea!!

Christmas 2021. Lots of things will change by then, trust me!!!!