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Cerina Galvez
Beginner October 2023

When is too early??

Cerina Galvez, on June 30, 2021 at 11:29 PM Posted in Planning 6 37
Hi Future Mrs’!


My wedding is October 2023, and I’ve already started looking at venues, colors and dresses. Only because when time comes, I want to know how much I should save. That being said, when is it too early to do wedding party proposals? And actually plan? I want to do it October this year so I have girls to streamline all my ideas. Any thoughts?!

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Latest activity by Kari, on August 16, 2021 at 5:10 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    If you look through this forum, you'll see so many posts about brides regretting asking people too early. If your friends are interested in hearing about your wedding, you can bounce ideas off of them, regardless of whether or not they are bridal party members. I wouldn't ask anyone until a year out, max. Generally, the person who you should be streamlining ideas with is your future spouse. The wedding is for the 2 of you, and no one will ever be as excited for your wedding as you are (something else that has also been shown to be true many times on this forum).
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  • Jm Sunshine
    Jm Sunshine ·
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    Now is too early!!! As pp said, there are so many complaints on this forum of brides who wish to retract BM proposals. At the very most, a year out is sufficient. However, now is not too early to think about your budget (as you mentioned) and booking a venue/date. Be forewarned, you may go into shock with cost of flowers, photographer, and cake!
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
    Cerina Galvez ·
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    The party is siblings and two girl friends I’ve had since I was 10…I’m 30. I’d feel terrible asking for their thoughts without having asked them. See my dilemma 😭
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
    Cerina Galvez ·
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    For the most part yes, my partner will have all final say in everything but let’s be honest, is anyone’s other half as excited as their MOH or bridesmaids? Will they have rational thoughts or “what’s that gonna cost? Sure babe if that’s what you think” lol. I appreciate so much your response, and thanks for the advice about regretting a proposal with a wedding two years away.
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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
    Alyssa ·
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    Got engaged in January.
    Picked out date/venue in February.
    Getting married October 2023.
    So my two bridesmaids both know that I want them in my wedding, but haven't officially asked them yet. Don't tell the ladies in these forums but I'm asking them in October officially 🙈
    But seriously you know your friends, if you have the relationship where they will tell you you're a bridezilla, and vice versa ask whenever.
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
    Cerina Galvez ·
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    And you my dear are the little ray of sunshine I hoped for 🙃 that is definitely what I need and they are so sure they’re going to be in my wedding it’s almost pointless but I’ll get glare of death if I don’t ask haha. Same wedding month and year as mine so I like your style already. Thank
    You & congrats! 🍾
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    Veronica ·
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    I agree with the others that you should wait. I had two friends that I was friends with for almost as long and during the wedding planning process our friendships ended. They were friends with each other as well and I found out they were saying horrible things about my husband behind my back including making up complete lies. I never expected that to happen so while you might think nothing could ever change your friendships with these girls that might not actually be the case. There is no reason you can't bounce ideas off of then before officially inviting them, but like another person mentioned the decisions should ultimately be made by you and your fiance.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    A lot of people say wait, but honestly....we didn't so I'm not giving you that same advice lol.

    We got engaged July 2020, wedding is January 2022. We did our wedding party proposals like September/November of 2020. FH asked his dad and brothers, I asked my 4 closest friends, who are literally my only gfs lol...

    If you are confident in your picks, and love them dearly, then ask them whenever you want. A lot of people on these forums complain and have regrets, but I've also discovered that A LOT of those negative feelings stem from the bride and/or bridal party having unrealistic expectations for one another. If ya'll treat one another with respect, keep communication open, and listen to one another when giving ideas, planning wedding events etc. then I think you'll be fine.

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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
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    I found these cards on Etsy that say "Now act surprised, like you didn't see this coming" then says will you be my ______?


    Lol I'll get those
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  • Catherine
    Expert March 2023
    Catherine ·
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    We’re getting married in March of 2023. We have looked at about six venues already and are looking at a few more and booking one at the end of august. We asked out bridal parties in May and it’s been really exciting planning with them and showing them photos of the spaces we’re touring. I don’t think it’s ever too early! I’d day start saving money now as you should have a budget in mind before you start looking at venues. And then start planning tours for a year and a half out!
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    Cool ·
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    is anyone’s other half as excited as their MOH or bridesmaids?”


    That actually makes me so sad to read. Your future spouse should definitely be more excited than your bridal party. I do agree with others it’s too early but I think you should reevaluate expectations.
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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
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    Your soon to be husband actually wants to sit down and plan out everysingle thing and DIY things with you? Im shocked. Every guy/couple I know the guy is excited but couldn't care if everyone wore jeans and a t-shirt to the venue and there was no decor. Lol
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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
    Alyssa ·
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    After reading this are we marrying the same man? Are we the same person? 🧐
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    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Yes, it was our wedding so we made decisions together. I definitely steered a lot of decor but yes he was involved in every step of wedding planning. I think it’s sexist to assume men aren’t interested in wedding planning. It’s an important day to them also..
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
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    Thank you! I appreciate it. And I’m the same with my gfs too. Small group and they’ve been there through harder, or more stressful times. Congrats!
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
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    Agree! I think I’d mostly the finance side of it, joy of being an accountant lol, I just can’t ask for ideas without proposing and I look forward to having as much fun as you lol. Thanks and congrats!
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
    Cerina Galvez ·
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    I’m sorry that happened to you. Thanks you for the advice!
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
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    Dude! I am planning on doing those as well 😂🙌🏼
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
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    Actually I am marrying a woman…so there’s no sexism over here just a little jerk-ism coming from that response. And even if I were marrying a man, I’m a realist. I know my partner, clearly. If I thought she wanted to be involved in everything then we would do it all. So my first response making you sad, makes me sad. I have no need to reevaluate a damn thing, but maybe prior to commenting on joyous forum…re-evaluate A) do I really need to say this? And 2) is this something a jerk would say to be offensive for no apparent reason?
    Answer key: A) HELL NO 2.) HELL YES
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  • Cerina Galvez
    Beginner October 2023
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    We may be the same person but unless your man is a Filipino woman, I think ya got me beat 😂😂 I’m a realist, I know exactly how this will go down when time comes lol she’s got a mans mentality which may be worse 🤦🏻‍♀️😭😂
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