When guests start inviting guests....

I would just say that unfortunately, your venue limit only allows a certain amount of people, and that you do not have room for people to bring dates, if they are truly single.

Is it actually a plus one or are these their significant others that you neglected to put on the invite??

I had one guest, invited with her husband, bring along one of her coworkers. Had no clue this person was coming. They just showed up, sat down, and started eating. People can be really fucking rude.

Ugh- at least you're aware.

I'm super nervous that FH's people will just bring people. Because that's what they do.

Same thing- We only have room for (this many) people unfortunately. Period.

If they are in a relationship, their SO should be invited. If not, you just tell them that's unacceptable.

How did you get to 250 from 150 anyway? (ETD for math....)

@ajpeacockk I'm sure there's enough meat-only street tacos to go around ffor any extra guests exceeding your 200 guest limit.

I actually had this happen recently. A friend is planning on being in New York at the time of my wedding next year anyways. And I guess she is planning on going on some road trips with a friend of hers and said that she was going to bring her friend with her. I told her unfortunately we would not be able to invite her friend (especially that neither one of us know) and that our invitation would be to strictly her. She tried to say well I can't leave my friend in the hotel room and I said I understand that and we would love to have you there but unfortunately we're not going to be able to accommodate your friend so we understand if you can't make it. We left it at that. I did tell her that I would include her on the room block if her and her friend wish to come into town but you know again repeating that we're not going to be able to accommodate her friend. I honestly hate when people try to bring other people to other peoples gatherings. I think it's rude for people to assume they can bring other people.

@boozy- but there's NOT enough hired security guards to meet venue's requirement. We're over planning for 20 people but if there's more than that, we'll lose our entire deposit which I'll be super pissed about.

No, absolutely not! I will tell them once. Nicely. But you show up, with another person, you'll be escorted off property immediately

If you were unable to include SO's in the invite, that was a clue you had too many guests.

I'm confused. Are these "add ons" true plus ones, or are they people your guests are dating?

If they're random plus ones that the people aren't dating then you'll just have to call them and tell them that regretfully you cannot accommodate people not in the invite but you hope they can still make it.

I don't agree at all. If someone has been in a relationship less than a year, they can do without them for one night.

We were married seven months after we met. So, being in a relationship less than a year, I guess one of us stays home?

You can't measure commitment with a clock or a calendar. If you want to know if two people are in a serious relationship, ask them.

I don't understand why this is so hard for people. People who aren't invited to your wedding aren't invited to your wedding. If you address an invite to an individual person and no one else, then the invite is to that person and no one else.

Just let them know you do not have the space/budget to accommodate extra guests and you would very much like for them to attend but they cannot bring a date. If they choose not to come because they don't have a date, then so be it.