When do you RSVP no?

We RSVP no as soon as we are certain we can’t attend if that’s the case.

I have NEVER said no. I love weddings!!!

The only wedding I've been invited to, I was 10. I was also in pop Warner cheer and our opening day games were the same day so i couldn't go. Ironically, it was my cheer coach and she invited the whole team

I've never said no lol

Some reasons I imagine we might decline would be a destination wedding (if we couldn't afford to attend), a schedule conflict, obvious B-listing, or not being close to the couple.

I have only RSVP'd no once. It was a last minute invite (obvious B-list because it was 4 days before the wedding) and I'd never met the couple (I worked with the MOG but, was not friendly with her).

I’ve only rsvpd no once and it’s because we will be on our honeymoon!

We’ve had to decline a few weddings- either we couldn’t afford to travel for it or we couldn’t get a sitter and the wedding was kid free.

Yes, I never let a decline sit. As soon as I get invitations, if there is an obvious conflict, or if liking for the couple is outweighed by investment of more time or money than we have, an immediate decline. . Sometimes with Save the dates, it varies. If I /we know it is a far off or a destination wedding , and not super close family, but one party lives nearby and I may be interested in going to the shower, or FI to a local event, I usually call or write a real letter, to say that for the purposes of planning numbers for the wedding or hotel blocks, we absolutely cannot attend the wedding. And there is no point in wasting am invitation just in case. But, that we were happy to receive the invitation, and hope that if they have a local (a few hours drive) shower or party, I would be happy to be invited. In some cases, 3x I'm 4 years for me, I have offered and held a shower myself or with another friend or family of the bride, and twice hubby has planned bachelor parties or weekends. It id an etiquette dilemma for couples. So many people would feel like they are asking you for a present after getting a decline, so off any list for giving or attending showers or Parties. But in writing a real letter, people usually have called back immediately, or emailed - sorry we cannot attend, but they appreciate the far advance notice, after Save, of the definite answer. Destination weddings are particularly hard to plan with mo numbers. And always invitations then to attend or give parties. For local weddings, sometimes Saves show no obvious conflict, but are too far in advance to reply for sure.. I personally think people who never RSVP to events in a timely manner should have a year long stamp on their forehead : PARIAH Too rude to invite anywhere!

The only reason I've said no was when we were notified only 2 weeks in advance and it was a destination wedding. Couldn't request the time off work that last minute, and flights would've been ridiculously overpriced! Had we gotten earlier notice, we absolutely would have gone

I think all the weddings I have declined have been because of travel. I basically can't travel during the school year and won't spend money to fly cross country only to spend a day and a half.

I have declined 2 when I should have declined 4. I hate to go to "certain types" of weddings. I don't like drunk family members touching me or speaking drunk.

I usually only decline if I can't make it because I have other plans or if it's further away and I can't travel. Typically, if I'm able to go, I go.

We've never RSVP'd no, but did end up not attending once at the last minute.

I’ve never said no, but I haven’t been invited to many.

I could imagine saying no to a DW. It’s a lot of money to travel and I’d have to be super close to the couple to do it.

I haven’t had a reason to decline as of yet, but if I ever had to decline it would be bc of availability or funds to travel.

Of the five weddings I’ve been invited to, I’ve said no to two. Both were during the holidays and across the country...ticket prices weren’t affordable for me. The weddings i have attended I was able to drive to (5 hours away)

I make an effort to attend every single wedding I am invited to unless there is just no possible way to do so. IMO, it's one of the most important days of their life and maybe they want to have a lot of people there. I know I would want them to do the same for me! So I try to always say yes. Plus I love weddings.

I RSVPed no to my cousin's wedding that just happened at the end of July. I just had a baby in April and have 3 kids total, my FH couldn't get the time off if he wants to take our wedding weekend and a honeymoon off in May since he just took a bunch of time around us having the baby (I had some pregnancy complications), and between my health and my anti-social tendencies, I decided it was best to pass. They completely understood and were very gracious about it. I won't be surprised if they pass on mine as well, but I will be just as gracious toward them.

Just once. FH and I had just moved into our first place together and we were invited to a destination wedding. We really wanted to go but we were just starting out and didn't have the funds for travel hotel, gifts etc. It was hard, we hated saying no!

I can only recall saying no to 2 weddings. Both were DWs and I didn’t have the funds at the time for flight, hotel, food, etc. But I think I’ve attended at least 5 DWs (3 of state ones), so no guilt!