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When do you open the wedding gifts?

Stephnie, on December 20, 2019 at 4:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Our wedding is on 2/29/20. We sent out invitations early because there is a large number of out of town guests, many of whom were asking for details to make their travel plans. So we sent invitations and made our website public Thanksgiving weekend.

I just got a package delivered and I know it’s from our registry because I didn’t order anything from that store recently.
Is it bad manners to open it and and send the thank you card now? I don’t want to seem greedy by opening it early, but then I don’t want to be rude by not acknowledging the gift either. I know historically you have a year to send your thank you cards, but I think that’s a bit excessive anyway.
The funny thing is I already have clear labels printed for all the guests invited in case they give a gift (I have the worst handwriting) but I don’t have thank you cards yet!

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Latest activity by Stephnie, on December 21, 2019 at 6:31 PM

Master January 2015
null · on December 20, 2019 at 4:06 PM
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Definitely open and send a thank you card ASAP! If they didn't want you to have the gift yet, they wouldn't have sent it to you. Last thing you want is someone wondering where their thank you card is
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VIP September 2019
Lauren · on December 20, 2019 at 4:08 PM
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Open it and send a thank you right away. You don't want to wait to open it just in case it is the wrong item, it is broken or otherwise needs to be returned. You also want to let your guest know that you did receive it. If it gets shipped straight to you sometimes the gift giver doesn't know if it has been delivered.
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Master May 2020
Kari · on December 20, 2019 at 4:34 PM
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Agreed with everything said here.

You can also send a thank you that isn't an official "wedding" thank you. I think the gift giver should know you got your item safely, so you need to acknowledge it has been received. You can follow up with a more formal wedding thank you at a later date if you want to, such as after the wedding, when the thank you on official stationary can be sent thanking them for attending.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on December 20, 2019 at 5:19 PM
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You should open it and send the thank you card as soon as possible. On most registries now days, the buyer has the option to have the gift shipped directly to you so you will probably start getting several between now and the wedding to keep your guests from lugging gifts in and to keep you from lugging gifts home lol plus you can start using your goodies right away!
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Master December 2019
Courtney · on December 20, 2019 at 8:39 PM
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We opened gifts, and sent thank you cards, as they came in. It definitely saves from having to keep track by the time your wedding is over.
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Lauren · on December 20, 2019 at 11:39 PM
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Hi date twin! You should definitely open them now and send a Thank You note. 😊 I had my first shower last weekend and got a lot of gifts so I’m working on doing Thank You notes this weekend!
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Dedicated February 2020
Stephnie · on December 21, 2019 at 6:31 PM
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Thanks everyone! Now if I can only convince my future husband.
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