When do you ask the bridal party?

I would wait until you’re a year away. Relationships can change and I’d just give it a little more time so you can be sure these are the people you want in the bridal party.


I don’t think it matters when you ask. I asked my MOH about a year in advance and then asked my bridesmaids over the course of the next 3-4 months just whenever I saw them because I wanted to do it in person 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would wait until 10-12 months before the wedding. Relationships change and there are tons of horror stories here on WW from people who have had a falling out with their wedding party after asking them. The order doesn't matter, although I would try to ask everyone around the same time, especially if they know each other. You don't want word to get out to others before you have a chance to ask.

View Quoted Comment ^yeah adding onto my comment after reading this, the only reason it worked for me to ask my bridesmaids a few months apart from each other is because they’re all from different parts of my life and none of them know each other so it’s not like they were going to hear about it from someone else before I got a chance to ask them.


If your bridesmaids do know each other then disregard what I said and ask them all around the same time. If you’re going to wait a little while between you could also tell them when you ask like “hey I’m also going to ask Sara but I haven’t gotten a chance yet so please don’t say anything to her” 🤷🏻‍♀️

I asked way too soon. I ended up having a falling out with one of my bridesmaid in the last few weeks. She and I are no longer friends. We both couldn't adjust to how each other had changed since we left college. She seemed to be stuck in that kind of party all the time and not worry about the future type of thing (nothing wrong with that). But she didn't like that I started voicing more opinions and that my views weren't the same as hers. After she started insulting my FH, I had to end the friendship. I wish I wouldn't have asked so soon now. Lesson learned that's for sure. I would wait till you are closer to the year mark.

I asked everyone at 18 months. I’ve known them for years, no reason to wait til 12 months. We had a few drop out at the last minute but they would have dropped no matter when we asked. I’m actually glad I asked farther away bc it gave me time for everything I needed to do.

I remember telling mine way before I ever got engaged aha since they're my best friends but I officially asked when I got engaged

Not now. Almost 2 yrs is a long time to want ppl to stay interested and motivated.

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I can relate to your comment. I have 4 cousins and 2 friends that i am putting in. I have some questions on my putting my one cousin in only because she lives in another state and we loose touch sometimes but she is still family and i somewhat talk to her. Im so iffy on what to do.

View Quoted Comment She can always tell you no, it doesn’t hurt to ask. But as someone who’s had a bridesmaid and 2 groomsman drop out I can tell you, it’s not the end of the world. I don’t regret picking who I picked I’m just sad they had other priorities beside standing beside me and my fiancé on our wedding day.

I'm asking at Christmas time. So itll be about 11 months out! I've been engaged a year already and it's so hard to wait to tell them. Especially now that I have their proposal presents together! Most are my sisters though and they already "know." Only one of my bridesmaids doesnt really know shes getting asked

I am over 1 year out and I JUST asked my girls! If you ask far in advance, make sure it's exactly who you want and trust with the responsibility because I've heard so many horror stories about brides asking early and then having a fall out with one or more girls.