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Just Said Yes January 2019

When did save the dates become invitations?

Crystal, on February 27, 2018 at 6:02 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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I thought they were just used to pretty much announce that you’re getting married and finally picked a day. I’m really confused now. I’m having a destination wedding and can only accommodate 21 guest for the ceremony and we are inviting everyone else to live stream it. Does that mean I shouldn’t send STD’s to the people I want to live stream it? Because please correct me if I’m wrong but wouldn’t they need to know what day it will be? We are also inviting everyone to the reception that we are having in our home town when we get back.

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on February 28, 2018 at 2:57 PM

Savvy September 2018
Meghan · on February 27, 2018 at 6:05 PM
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I wouldn't have sent them a save the date but rather some thing announcing engagement and putting info for the live stream. If I got a destination wedding save the date id start planning right away for flights, hotels, taking off work, etc.
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Ann · on February 27, 2018 at 6:10 PM
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I agree.

Sending a Save the Date means “invitations are on the way soon! Keep my date saved until then!”

An engagement announcement with information about the livestream should have been sent.
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Master October 2017
O · on February 27, 2018 at 6:11 PM
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I thought std's were only sent for destination weddings, or guests living out of the country. I do think stds are the formal invitation.
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Just Said Yes January 2019
Crystal · on February 27, 2018 at 6:11 PM
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Thank you, everything we are doing is so unconventional idk what to do and what’s right. I haven’t sent anything out yet. Wanted to make sure I knew exactly what to do first.
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Just Said Yes May 2018
Orlene · on February 27, 2018 at 6:14 PM
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I'm having a destination wedding and I did a save the date e-invites to put the info out to all my guests so people can prepare in advance as to whether they can attend. Then sent proper invitations mainly to those attending and a only a few who are not going to save cost. I agree maybe an announcement of engagement best then send official stds/ invites only to those actually invited and attending only that way there is no confusion.
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Master October 2017
O · on February 27, 2018 at 6:37 PM
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I mean the do not, can't edit on mobile 🙄
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VIP October 2018
Sara P. · on February 27, 2018 at 6:55 PM
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Save the dates are not invites. send the save the dates to the 21 people you are inviting them send those same people a formal invitation 2 months before your wedding. Send an engagement announcement to the rest with the info for the live stream. Send a separate invitation for the reception at home when you return.
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Mrsbdg · on February 27, 2018 at 7:08 PM
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STDs aren't invites. I'd just send an announcement for those you want like a month prior to your wedding. They won't need to ask off.

When you do your celebration of marriage back in your hometown, be sure to send them out six to eight weeks prior
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rica · on February 27, 2018 at 7:44 PM
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If I got a save the date for a destination wedding I would assume you wanted me to try to make travel arrangements for a vacation. I would not be happy if I found out after I paid for accommodations...
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Kelly · on February 27, 2018 at 8:44 PM
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We’re doing a cruise wedding, so we got the word out that we we’re planning it a few weeks before actually booking. Once we had most of the guests we were expecting to come book, we sent out formal invitations (to the ones that booked and the ones we are 99% expecting to book within the next few months). Those that declined to come or haven’t responded didn’t receive an invitation.
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Lynnie · on February 28, 2018 at 2:57 PM
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Hi Crystal! A save the date is very literally a quick note asking your guests to save that date on their calendar for your wedding. Save the dates typically include a line that says "formal invitation to follow", and most of the critical wedding information is reserved for the wedding invitation. You should only send save the dates to people who will also be invited to the wedding!!
Live streaming info might be best spread by word of mouth to guests who can not attend!

Here's some great information about save the dates you should check out:
The Ultimate Guide to Save-the-Dates
Save-the-Dates: What You Need to Know
Expert Q&A: Save-The-Date Wedding Advice
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