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Kelly
Super June 2016

What's the proper way to thank someone for a overly generous gift?

Kelly, on May 20, 2016 at 2:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

Most of FH's extended family is unable to attend our wedding because they live in another country and one of his cousins is getting married the weekend after us (local to them). We've received three overly generous wedding gifts from them and we're not sure how to properly thank them. We already plan to send them a thank you card with messages from both of us, but should we do something more?

FH was thinking that we would give them a copy of our recipe book that we're making for our guestbook. It's a professionally bound book made out of recipes submitted by our invited guests. They cost about $50 each. I agree that it might be a nice way to thank someone, but if we end up buying 10 extra books, that's over $500 that could go towards the home that we're closing on next month. Am I being too frugal?

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Latest activity by BlueHenBride, on May 20, 2016 at 7:18 PM
  • Staci
    Master September 2014
    Staci ·
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    I would just send a thank you card. They are sending you gifts in lieu of attending so they probably want to be more generous. No one is forcing them to spend that amount though. Just be gracious and move on.

    ETA: Maybe a few printouts of wedding photos since they are unable to make it.

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  • Kelly
    Super June 2016
    Kelly ·
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    Oh! Excellent idea, Staci! Thanks!

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  • FreshToDeathAng
    Master September 2016
    FreshToDeathAng ·
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    I agree, a very nice thank you card seems okay to me. If you send gifts as a thank you for a gift it could go on forever and ever. It's so very generous of them, but I think it's perfectly okay to send a lovely thank you card. I'd be very happy to receive a heartfelt message from the bride and groom!

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
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    I like the idea of sending the recipe books. If they were ***that*** generous it sounds warranted Smiley smile

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  • JennV
    Master October 2017
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    I think a handwritten note and some photos would be perfect. You didn't ask them to spend a bunch!

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  • OG Kristen
    Master October 2015
    OG Kristen ·
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    I got a very generous gift and just sent a thank you note like the rest of the guests. The person who gave it to us knows how appreciated they are and I didn't want to make it awkward and overdo it.

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  • Alexandra
    Expert July 2020
    Alexandra ·
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    I think a thank you cards and maybe some wedding pictures would be nice!

    If you end up with an extra recipe book I would send them one.

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  • Katie
    Super October 2016
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    I would send a thank you card just like you are to your other gift givers.... You don't want it going around that you gave "select" big givers a special gift! It might make others jealous and cause unnecessary drama.

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
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    I think thank you notes with pics is a great idea

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    I would send a thank you card and a few pictures. Depending on when you are going to get your pictures back from your photographer, it may be wise to send the thank you notes now, with a promise to mail a few wedding pictures after the photographer is done with them.

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