What would you do cake edition

Would you have your cake baker make the grooms cake and all the sides and just go through them only?

I mean, just wedding cake in and of itself is plenty! I'd skip the other things and not risk losing your dream cake

5 layers of cake would be more than enough dessert for me. Also, I'm really glad you read the fine print of your contract!

What a wild restriction. I wonder if it's out of concern for integrity - such as if you ended up with a bad groom's cake, they don't want guests think they made it as well.

I would err on the side of caution and nix the other cake items. I don't think cupcakes are worth you losing your wedding cake and a lot of money, or risking a breach of contract if they find out after the fact. If the groom's cake is particularly important, you could see if the wedding cake baker can also make that, but I would just skip it if it isn't in the budget.

Unfortunately, this is common where vendors restrict the use of other vendors that provide the same service because they don't want their work mistaken for someone else's. My advice would be to see if your wedding cake baker can provide the additional items that you want otherwise I would skip those additional items.

Plenty of bakeries do this- I used to work with one that did not do this and had guests from the wedding tell us how disappointing the cupcakes were (which we did not provide). The cake was well over $1,500. We were so upset that cupcakes arrived after we set up and were not up to our standard. We had guests assume that we provided everything (which is a safe assumption for guests). She changed her policy after that. I would just go with your dream cake, add a groom's cake through her if it is a top priority. Or maybe offer the groom's cake from other bakery during the rehearsal dinner?

The wedding cake should be more than plenty on its own. Skip the other desserts.


You can serve groom’s cake at the rehearsal dinner without losing your wedding cake.

I would keep the wedding cake, skip everything else. I'm the same as you, I LOVE desserts and it was a high priority for me. But when I was talking to our venue coordinator and discussing options for it, she actually told me to skip it because having both is a huge waste of money, nobody eats all of it, they end up throwing a lot away, etc. So we are just doing a cake and skipping the rest. Or if you don't want cake and prefer the other desserts, do those instead.

I agree with many others on here...just have them do the grooms cake too. The cupcakes and other desserts seem like overkill with a cake that large, unless you're having a huge wedding.

This is pretty common, I’ve heard about florists doing this as well, I really don’t get why you would mix vendors like that. I think the wedding cake is enough on its own, you don’t need all the other sweets. I went to a wedding where they had a huge sweets table, and they served cake and ice cream - the sweets table went untouched. I personally don’t think a grooms cake is necessary, sounds like a total waste of money.

I understand the desire of wanting a groom’a cake, it’s big where I’m from too. I think your only option is to ask the baker of your cake if they’d be willing to do the groom’s cake too, if not would they allow you to get it elsewhere if you put little, fancy signs by each caking noting where they came from.

What a ridiculous contract restriction! That said, I’d probably just have the dream cake baker also do the groom’s cake. Will your wedding cake have different flavors? Even two cake options is fantastic. Honestly, I see so much leftover dessert. Cake is plenty (and soooooo yummy!).