What wedding traditions are you keeping and which ones do you think you can do without?

We skipped: wedding party, father giving away bride, church ceremony, changed vows to “husband & wife” not “man & wife,” I kept my last name, no bouquet/garter toss, no dancing or wedding cake at our DW (we had both at our local reception).

Well be doing first look. I don’t want to do a veil so that may be off, DF likes the look though. We won’t be keeping the top tier for first anniversary. One tradition that I’m super excited about is called burying the bourbon, that we most definitely will be doing!

View Quoted Comment What is burying the bourbon?! Where does that come from? How fun!

View Quoted Comment It’s a southern tradition, not sure where it comes from! You bury a bottle of bourbon top down near your ceremony site exactly a month before your big and then dig up the day of to share with everyone or just your bridal party. It’s to keep the rain away and bring luck.

We skipped bouquet/garter tosses, church ceremony, we altered the traditional vows, I didn't cover my face with my veil, no favors, no send off... we added a sword fight.

Keeping:

Garter/bouquet toss, Toasts, First Dances, Dad walking down the aisle, (also) burying the bourbon, tieing the knot

Leaving:

Vows (using traditional Celtic ones!), anything about obeying, anything related to religion, no face covering

View Quoted Comment That’s a super cool tradition!

Definitely not doing the garter toss, not sure about the bouquet yet. No veil face covering, no “giving away the bride” words but my dad will walk me down the aisle, FH didn’t ask my parents for my hand, will hyphenate my last name, no religion in our ceremony, and we will do a first look too.

We aren't getting married in a church. I am probably not going to wear a veil. I'm going to leave it up to my parents what they want to do as far as walking me down the aisle - I think they are both going to walk with me. We aren't having a wedding party, but if SIL wants my niece to be a flower girl, she certainly can. No first dance, toast, garter/bouquet....again, if my dad really wants a father/daughter dance I am down, but I can do without it. Also, FH was with me when I picked my dress. We are also going on our honeymoon before we're actually married (but that's because of COVID.)

I do like the tradition of spending the night before the wedding apart and not seeing each other until the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Oh how fun! Thanks for sharing. Do you I bury it during the ceremony or before?

Keeping:

First look, first dance, "giving away" but will be walked down the aisle, wedding party (as of right now), father/daughter dance (possibly), sleeping apart night before, changing last name

Discarding:

Traditional vows (writing our own), veil, church ceremony, white dress, something old, new, borrowed and blue, garter toss (and possibly bouquet toss), honeymoon the day of, flower girl/ring bearer, keeping top tier of cake for first anniversary

View Quoted Comment You bury it exactly a month before the ceremony then dig it up the day of the ceremony.

We are jumping the broom and doing the bouquet and garter toss (although I could care less about this). We're not doing first look, I will have a veil but not covering my face, no "speak now or forever hold your peace" during the ceremony (if you feel some type of way then you should have said something a long time ago...have several seats....I will hike my dress up and Mike Tyson you), no ring bearer.

Keeping:
First dance, Father and daughter dance, wedding party, father is walking me down the aisle, tea ceremony, door games.

Discarding:Coving face (doing a cape instead of a Vail), garter toss (don't have enough single men attending), bouquets toss (not having a bouquet), bouquets for bride and bridesmaids, MOH, best man, parents paying, white dress (wearing black), cake and anything related.

We did a first dance and bouquet toss and even a garter toss. I think the only thing I didn’t do was have someone walk me down the aisle

We are keeping the Mother/Son Dance, and adding that FH is going to to a dance with his daughters, I have not figured out how I'm handling the Father/Daughter Dance. We are also keeping the first dance.

My brother will walk me down the aisle, but not give me away.

No bouquet and garter toss.

No religious piece of the ceremony. We will be working with our Officiant on creating the ceremony and writing our vows.

Yes to the veil, but I am not covering my face.

We will spend the night before apart, and as of now, he won't see me until I come down the aisle.

We're skipping most traditions.


No veil, no father escorting me down the aisle or dancing at the reception (he's not invited), no religious elements or church venue (though may ask a close friend who is a pastor to officiate). No bouquet/garter tosses, no toasts, no MC, no introductions at reception, no parents paying, not saving top tier of cake.

Also not having a separate reception dress but that's more of a trend than tradition, since many brides don't even consider it. Also not having a white dress.


The ones we will be keeping:pictures before the ceremony, serving cake as main dessert, feeding guests a full meal after the reception (in my family, I will be the first to not have a cake and punch reception), dj for music/dancing, wedding party

I will not do the first look. My opinion that’s wrong. Groom shouldn’t see the bride in this first look business.


As for throwing my bouquet you bet! Garter on the other hand I can’t convince my shy fiancé to throw it. My father is walking me down the aisle and there’s a father daughter dance.
No flower girl or ring bearer.