What are you guys foregoing for your weddings? It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the most minute details. I’m interested to see what you guys are leaving out. I am foregoing dinner menus and ceremony programs so far.
We are doing menus, but that is because we are not doing paper invitations, and I wanted some paper things.
No garter toss, no bouquet toss, no father-daughter or mother-son dances. Very few speeches (just both dads and us together), no bridal party 'walking across a field laughing' photos - just one or two family group photos and the rest will be candid. No rehearsal dinner (very uncommon here, we'll just have dinner at a pub with our bridal party and any of our friends who are staying the night before can pop in for a drink with us, type thing), no recovery brunch. No register - we've lived together for 3 odd years, so we don't really want any boxed gifts at all.
We're also foregoing the tosses and mother/father dances. We're also leaving out guest favours - we'll send them framed pictures of themselves (from the day) as thank you cards instead. Also, no classic wedding cake, we're doing a french patisserie table instead. We've considered hiring a photo booth but in the end decided to hire our photographer for the entire two days instead and get more professional pictures. And our invitations will be extremely sleek and simple, pretty much just to let everyone know that we have a website and all the information can be found there (older family members will still get the classic "full" invitation).
We aren’t having ceremony programs either, or menus as our dinner will be buffet style. I’m having that printed in a details card in our invites. Leaving out bouquet and garter toss, not having a DJ. I think that’s it for right now.
Oh we aren’t having cake either, we are having an apple cider donut sundae bar
We are foregoing programs, menus, garter & bouquet tosses, grand entrance for the bridal party, grand exit & day after brunch.
No favors. No bachelor/ette weekend trips. No garter/bouquet tossed. No reception announcements for any of the bridal party including us. No toasts. No champagne or signature drinks. No signage (outside of the bar and stations for dinner). No photo booth or lawn games. No parent dances.
No registry, no bridal showers/bachelorette trips, no bridal party. No first looks, no ceremony programs, no parent dances, no tosses. No uplighting, no rentals. No videographer. Instead of cake, we are doing a macaron tower.
View Quoted Comment
I am debating skipping the father daughter dance as well. I don’t have the best relationship with my dad and I think it would just feel forced and awkward. I’m not quite sure about the the tosses yet.
We're skipping ceremony programs, a sign for favors, menu cards, RSVP cards, and the sign for the cards/gifts table.
We're also not doing a traditional guest book. Instead, we'll have the escort cards hanging up on string attached to old picture frames, and we're having our guests take a polaroid photo of themselves, and replacing their escort card with the photo. They can also write a note to us on a mini notecard and hang it up with their photo. After the wedding, we're going to put them all in an album! I like having something with photos rather than just signatures
Oh, and today we've also decided that we're skipping all the signage - "welcome to our wedding", "Chloe & Lars", "buffet", "dancefloor" and whatever else people put signs up for - you can't get lost in our venue and our guests know our names and are all adults able to find the buffet without us having to spell it out for them (or so I hope, I will loose all faith in humanity if that's not the case). But we are doing little welcome bags with handwritten notes, because for most of our guests this is going to be a destination wedding and we want to show them that we're very grateful that they're crossing continents just to spend this one weekend with us...
Btw, all of this: FHs ideas. If you need someone to edit things out, ask a man. I went a bit wild on Etsy researching those signs and he brought me back to earth. I get mad sometimes because he doesn't pay that much attention to the details, but sometimes it's so good to have someone look at all that crap I find and ask "why do we need this?!".