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What trends/traditions are you skipping because they're not you?

Michele, on September 25, 2020 at 10:41 AM Posted in Planning 0 37
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Obviously keeping etiquette in place, what are you being expected to do that doesn't speak to you at all and therefore doing away with?



For example, there will be no introductions at our reception, no toasts/speeches, no tosses, no parent spotlight dances. Haven't decided about others yet.

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Latest activity by Anna, on September 29, 2020 at 3:40 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We skipped the tosses, they make my cringe every time.

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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    We aren't doing introductions, and maybe not speeches either.
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  • L
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    My fiance will walk with me down the aisle instead of my dad. We're also skipping the tosses and related activities.
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
    Chrysta ·
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    My mother kept pushing for a religious officiant, but it’s just not me, so we are opting out of that. She also kept pushing for the big white ballgown... which is DEFINITELY not me! I humored her and tried several on for her, but ultimately got the dress that suits me and my personality. Like you, we also will not be doing any sort of formal toasts, spotlight dances or bouquet/garter tosses- I’ve never liked any of these trends at weddings I’ve attended and couldn’t wait to do away with them at ours.
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated July 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Most of them. Yay for a micro wedding!

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  • Meghan
    Dedicated September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    Skipping the garter part. That makes me sooooo uncomfortable.


    Also not having my ceremony at a church. I am religious BUT I love the idea of an outdoor ceremony and having everything in one location
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  • Emma
    Super October 2020
    Emma ·
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    No garter toss. We’re doing first look instead of waiting. Thinking of skipping speaches
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  • Ali
    Devoted March 2021
    Ali ·
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    No tosses simply because it is just our immediate family and everyone is married except for my FH younger cousins. No toasts/speeches don't think they are necessary. And I'm on the fence about even wearing a garter because I'm not even sure if he will take it off.
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I skipped the parent dances and being walked down the aisle
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  • Biaani
    Dedicated May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    No father daughter dance. no garter toss. we'll probably toss something else like a plush baseball (he plays baseball)

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  • Hanna
    Super June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    We skipped bouquet toss and garter toss (I think these days though, most people skip the garter toss due to the cringe factor)

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  • Marissa
    Expert October 2020
    Marissa ·
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    Also skipping both tosses, maybe we'll do speeches (the option will be there if people want to say a few words), and we're just doing first dance. We're not even doing large group dancing or party type dancing because that's not the kind of people we are, 😂 also we're only inviting about 25 guests so it'll feel more like a nice family dinner party.

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  • A
    Dedicated October 2020
    Adriana ·
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    We’re skipping the unity ceremony, the speeches, and the garter toss. I haven’t decided on introductions or the bouquet toss.
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  • Bo Miller
    Expert November 2021
    Bo Miller ·
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    Skipping the tosses, more than likely the speeches (not decided yet), the introductions, we will both be walking down the isle alone, I won't be doing a special dance with anyone but my FW.

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  • Belle
    VIP July 2021
    Belle ·
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    I don’t know if I can dare to toss a few $$$ and possibly damage the beautiful bouquet. I prefer to keep it and preserve it.
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  • Molly
    Rockstar September 2020
    Molly ·
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    We skipped the introductions and the tosses.

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  • Leonardia
    Dedicated June 2021
    Leonardia ·
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    We aren't doing the tosses, doing a first look/both getting ready at the same venue...actually doing our intro's during the cocktail hour so that we can flow into dinner instead of hustling everyone and then announcing lol....mostly because I want some of that food haha.

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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    We're doing alternative tosses where I'll throw part of my bouquet to all the women regardless of marital status, and my FH will throw his boutonniere to all the men regardless of marital status.

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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    For starters, I don't have a white dress. We're decided not to do the tosses and parent dances and there's no ring bearer or flower girl. We're skipping registries and unity ceremony. I'm also not doing the whole something old, new, borrowed and blue.

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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
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    This sounds just like us! I forgot that people have ringbearers and flower girls LOL We won’t be having either of those, or kids at our wedding period. No registry or unity ceremony either. I’m sure I will do the something old, new, borrowed and blue though, because I am a superstitious nut 😆
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