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What to say after rsvp date?

Emma, on August 11, 2020 at 12:09 PM Posted in Planning 1 11

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So me and FH were talking about what we are going to do when we don’t hear back from people by our rsvp date. I was thinking of sending this as a text to each person

Hello________!

We just wanted to send a reminder that the rsvp date for our wedding was yesterday. Unfortunately we have not heard from you yet! Please let us know if you are able to attend or not. If we do not hear from you we will unfortunately have to mark you as “regretfully decline”. We look forward to celebrating with our friends and family! Please let us know if you have any questions! Much love, Emma & Thomas

Our rsvp date is still 2 1/2 weeks away so we are probably jumping the gun with already planning on what to say but oh well!

How long should I wait to mark the guest that don’t reply as a decline? We have to give our designer our final number September 10th. I was thinking of waiting till September 5th to mark as decline.

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Latest activity by Jana, on August 11, 2020 at 1:43 PM

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Caytlyn · on August 11, 2020 at 12:14 PM
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Your template sounds great, but you should add a firm deadline. "If we do not hear from you by ___ we will unfortunately have to mark you as “regretfully decline”. Five days before your headcount is due should work.
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Emma · on August 11, 2020 at 12:26 PM
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That’s what I was thinking. Since our rsvp is on a Monday I’ll give them till that Saturday to rsvp. Gives then an extra 5 days
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Queen Cone · on August 11, 2020 at 12:33 PM
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I would take a step further and say if we dont hear from u by (date) we will assume you are not attending

i learned people dont even answer reminders. if someone doesnt rsvp theyre probably not coming
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Emma · on August 11, 2020 at 12:36 PM
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I just don’t someone to be like “oh I totally forgot that the rsvp was yesterday!” I’ve done that before with birthdays parties, never a wedding though 😂
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Alyssa · on August 11, 2020 at 12:38 PM
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That’s a good idea! give them 5 days to reply.
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Queen Cone · on August 11, 2020 at 12:43 PM
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I hear you. i feel like in normal circumstances its not such a big deal but now were dealing with limits on guest size and everything so its even more important. i feel like if people get a wedding invite and they want to come they wont forget to rsvp. i know personally im extremely punctual i wouldnt forget but some people r like that.
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Karis · on August 11, 2020 at 1:04 PM
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I like your reminder template!

Our RSVP date is the same as yours and I have already been thinking about how to politely contact people. We have invited 100 and so far had 20 RSVP. I know I can be bad about RSVPing until the last moment. But I’m still anxiously awaiting all these RSVPs. A few people I invited form out of state I have texted and asked if they received their invitation. Several said that had not yet( I mailed them a month ago). I think what you plan to say is perfect, I may have to steal it and say something similar. Lol
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Emma · on August 11, 2020 at 1:09 PM
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Go ahead and steal it!
We invited a total of 132. We sent invites mid July and so far have had 48 responses. I know there are at least 15 people who will not be coming (family out of state) but I’m still waiting for a response from them. I check the mail everyday and I swear I need to stop! 😂
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Emma · on August 11, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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Thankfully we didn’t invite more then what our venues half capacity is so really if everyone said yes we’d be fine. I’m actually hoping to get a few declines so that there’s not as many people in one room. My hope is only a 75 person wedding instead of the original 136 that we’re invited
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Tiante · on August 11, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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That’s great, in fact I’m gonna steal this and tweak it bit lol I’d give a week after that text then mark as decline
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Jana · on August 11, 2020 at 1:43 PM
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What is the date listed on your reply cards. Track them down by phone or text (email has the potential to get lost in a spam filter if you don't communicate with them that way on regular basis) the day after what is listed as your deadline. It will probably take a few days to get through your list of those who didn't reply. So allow yourself time to track people down before you turn in the count (most do a couple weeks). If they don't have a response when you call, count them as a no.

Sometimes people wait till the last second to mail them.
Ask if they're planning to attend. Otherwise they will be missed.
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