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What to do???

Aliciabilly2019, on July 14, 2019 at 12:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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So my MOH is being really distant. Mind you we have 46 days till the wedding. I ask her want to get together for bbq spend time together shes busy busy busy.. so my thinking is if she doesnt have time for our friendship what good is she going to do me for our wedding to help me and be there for me then? We havent had much money to do things this year bc of the wedding paying off vendors etc... she knows all this but is being so short with me when er talk and just to busy to even have a bbq and spend time with us and were suppose to be best friends. Idk ive asked her if shes mad at me and she sayd no just busy not going to hang out home all summer i said ok i understand that but how about planning 1 day just 1 to spend time with us your friends / thought we were so close as thought of as family but i guess not. Idk what to do weddings so close and all i have is one bridesmaid after her and thats my younger sister..what do i do ?

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Melissa · on July 14, 2019 at 1:18 PM
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I wouldn’t do anything. If she’s busy, she’s busy. My best friends and I rarely get the time to see each other, but are still good friends. We may get together 2-3 times a year because everyone has crazy schedules. As for the wedding, if she has her dress then I wouldn’t worry about anything else because she’s not required to be doing anything else.
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Melissa · on July 14, 2019 at 1:23 PM
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I dealt with this recently, my MOH was being distant and then accusing me of not caring about our friendship ect. When it came down to the deciding point of our friendship, everything turned around. We ended up talking it out, I made her a bridesmaid, and asked another bridesmaid to step up to MOH since she'd pretty much been one the whole time. Now everyone is happy and good to go lol I would be intentional and tell her you want to spend time with her, maybe go on a shopping trip or something. All you can do is try, if she comes around, awesome. If not it's okay to cut ties for now. My friend was struggling with being stagnant in life, while everyone else was moving forward, yours could be dealing with that same issue.
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Aliciabilly2019 · on July 14, 2019 at 2:56 PM
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Thank you melissa ...i know we all have to work etc..and i did try and say let's plan a day bc she has been planning things on weekends bc i get shes so busy during week etc but everything i meantion shes like oh nope sorry just to busy but then shell be like oh were planning idk what weekend this that and another thing so obviously she has time not booked yet that she can pencil me in at least one day but i guess it is what it is ...i tried talking to jer she says everything is fine so idk well see
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Judith · on July 14, 2019 at 3:31 PM
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You accept that she still is your friend, but is particularly busy now. Call up another friend or relative, go out, have fun. If you have hardly gone out or spent money while saving and planning for your wedding, a lot of people are wondering when you will make time for them. You cannot judge the future months based on now. Don't worry about her being there for the wedding
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Aliciabilly2019 · on July 14, 2019 at 3:45 PM
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Very true thank you judith.
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