What to do

View Quoted Comment Not an oversight. We all spoke about it last year during their family reunion. We expressed as she and his son stood there side by side , listening to our conversation that we would not attend the family reunion for we would be on our honeymoon. Her idea is she wanted her dad st the family reunion and has been asking him to go all year. Expressing in her message about her stag and doe...hey stag and doe on July 27 I know you wont be able to make it. I sure would love it if you could . Oh well just let me know if you can .....

View Quoted Comment I asked her to make stag and doe for following weekend she said no

View Quoted Comment Oh gosh
Well you have some thinking to do. Can you spend the rest of your life this way and be truly happy?
I couldn't and thank goodness we worked through it when I pointed out that sure 99% kids can come first ,but once in awhile it's ok if we put ourselves first....especially when we plan things ahead of time.
I hope he will reconsider.

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I honestly don't think she wanted either of you there.

Although I believe kids come first, that more for young kids and helping them feel safe and comfortable with a new parent/family. I would be very disappointed and extremely concerned about marrying someone who continued to put his adult kids before me and our wedding/honeymoon.

Some of the details about timing and events are a little hard to follow but that doesn't really matter because I feel you have a future spouse problem, not a future step-children problem.

Whatever his kids do or say, what really matters is the communication and care between you and him. And I am just not seeing evidence of him listening to you and caring about your feelings. Please think very carefully about what you want your future marriage to be like.

Issues with wedding events or the honeymoon are actually pretty insignificant compared to your marriage.

Now I find out , theough a text his daughter sent her dad, she wants to confirm with me what I am to wear for her wedding so I dint clash with her wedding photos even though I'm not part of the photos cause I'm not family ....omg...I'm also sitting during the ceremony and the reception in the back ...all he says is well it's her day...that's the way she is ....