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What to Do With Kids

Doxie Mom, on August 13, 2020 at 5:35 PM Posted in Planning 0 11
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Our Venue Seats 160. We def 100% inviting our family (nieces, nephews, cousins w/kids etc) for sure. We are wondering what route to go with our friends children (there would be 9 of them,) I love them of course but what do do with seating? Does a 1 year old count as a guest, where would they even sit, there are no high chairs at our venue and most of them will be in the 1-3 age range. AlDo you count them in the catering list? I'm so torn on what to do or if maybe we should not include them on the invitation? Also that is almost 5 more couples that we could invite that we really want to but couldnt d/t guest count, not inviting them would free that up.


Thanks for the advice Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Kristen, on August 14, 2020 at 2:40 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Every butt needs a seat. Even if they're a baby, it's way more convenient to set their car seat in a chair than to leave your kid on the floor. You should also ask your caterer about including them in the headcount. Some caterers don't require you to include kids under a certain age if you're having a buffet. If you're serving a plated meal, they should have kids options.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Some caterers have a specialty kids meal
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    Dedicated June 2021
    Doxie Mom ·
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    It is a buffet

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Or for your case maybe they’ll charge for kids differently
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  • Tonilynn
    Dedicated September 2020
    Tonilynn ·
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    I allowed only family kids (nieces and nephews) I explained that to any guests who have kids I made it clear no kids except family. Otherwise I’m spending an arm and a leg on kids!! Nope sorry
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  • Krissey
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    Krissey ·
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    Unless it is a destination wedding I think not including children is fine. They may enjoy an evening of adult conversation without having to worry about their own child. If they can’t find a sitter than they may not be able to come then..
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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Most caterers offer kids meals. Every guest, even children, are counted. They are seated with parents. Are you able to rent high chairs from a local party rental vendor? Otherwise kids are seated with parents. They love to dance at the reception too.


    Bear in mind that some people view weddings as family events where everyone is included, and kids are seen as an all or nothing type deal. Dont have your own kids in attendance while the rest of your guests have to find babysitters as it leaves a bad taste in people's mouths.
    Decide which is more important: the extra couples and no kids or invite kids and send announcements to the others.
    Find out if your venue has Covid restrictions depending on your date as some only allow 50 or less regardless of regular capacity.
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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    You should definitely invite your friends children if you are inviting everyone else's children. You would highly offend some of your guests if you told them they couldn't bring their children and then they got to your wedding and there were a bunch of children in attendance. Caterers often have different prices for children. Every child will also need a seat.
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    Doxie Mom ·
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    Its not until next June

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    Expert October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    This is something to discuss with your venue/caterer. For mine, kids of certain ages cost different amounts and kids a certain age and younger are free.
    Still, as was previously mentioned, even kids need chairs to sit on, and that will have to be factored in should your friends choose to bring their children. It would be difficult to allow some guests to bring children but not all. The only acceptable way to do that is to only include children that are in the wedding. Some people are okay with the couple only allowing nieces/nephews, but that can also be seen as rude. Since you’re allowing all of your family, including cousins, to bring their children, you should not exclude your friends’ children.
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    Kristen ·
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    Agreed that you can’t ask friends not to bring kids and then have a bunch of kids at the wedding. Think of it from this perspective, how will you phrase it on the website and when people ask if and why they can’t bring kids?
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