What to do with flaky bridesmaids

I had a flaky bridesmaid too. When is the bachelorette party you're throwing for yourself? Did you ask any of them if they wanted to throw you a party? For my first wedding my "best friend" offered to throw me a bridal shower. 2 days before the shower she backed out. My mom had to pay for everything last minute and the friend didn't even show up to the shower. I would be more direct with your bridesmaids and voice your issues to them. It worked for me with my MOH.

I know it hurts to feel your friends don't care, I do. But they aren't obligated to throw you showers or help you. Their only job is to get the right outfit and show up on the wedding day in said outfit. You shouldn't have thrown yourself a bachelorette. I would def. talk to the friend that blew you off for your regular plans and ask her if everything is okay. Other than that I'd just let the wedding stuff go and don't let their behavior stress you out or affect your wedding day. Them not helping now won't ruin your day I promise. Doesn't mean it'll hurt any less in the meantime of course. I hope things get better!

Emily, that does suck. Sometimes we realize during weddings that people that we thought we were close to are not really that good of friends after all. I agree that the only thing they're really required to do is show up in the proper attire to the wedding, but true friends do more than that if able. You might just have to decide if they're worth it after the wedding. Have you voiced your concerns to them?

Relatives can throw you a shower--plenty of brides have an aunt or mother do it, and you can throw your own bach party. It's not a party requesting gifts, so you can throw it and be perfectly acceptable.

Also this https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/ring-avatars-please-read-newbies-or-not/bb4da6d791b30432.html

The friend that blew me off three times is actually the one who volunteered to take over and plan everything and then she never followed through. My sister is my MOH and she lives out of town. I am just accepting that she is showing her true colors and that it won't taint my day because in the end...its about me and my fiancé. It is just disappointing to find out she wasn't that great of a friend.

Do you have a maid of honor, cause usually that person is the one who organizes things or gets the ball rolling. The problme might be lack of structure. Would your mom/sis throw a shower for you if you told them your friends wern't? My mom and sis did mine (however my sis was also one of my MOH's)

I personally would email them all together and tell them that you are hurt no one wanted to do this for you, and tell them you find it really upsetting that when you hosted your own no one even wanted to come for a slumber party. It seems you have geen generous, but maybe you just need to be clear on your wants.

My girls were people who I felt I could say anything to, and I had experience being in the wedding of a bridezilla so I knew how to treat them properly and I also love them all and apreciate what they did for me. That said I dropped HUGE hints, like emailing and saying I don't know if or when you are planning a shower but if you do phere is a list of all the women invited to th

The wedding so please don't invite anyone but these people.

And if you are planning a batchlorette, here are all my good gf's friends adresses, and I'm cool with anything, and if you need somewhere to host it my cottage is open, just clear it with my mom that no one else will be there, or if we have it in town people can use my house to crash and not pay for hotels. etc etc

I thought I made it pretty clear when I said to her "I'm enlisting your help. My sister lives in colorado and if you could help me plan a bachelorette party in NYC I would really appreciate it." She said absolutely. I told her to do it July 4th weekend about six months ago. She said great. I waited thinking she had it all taken care of. Three weeks before I asked her if it was a surprise and she said she hadn't even looked. She was still coming though and she totally dropped the ball but that she would be free from July 4th to the sunday after just for me. She flaked on July 4th saying she she had plans. Then 5th comes and she is supposed to be here at 1 but says she won't be able to make it till 6. She was supposed to crash here tonight but apparently she thinks it will have to be till tomorrow. I get that this is a weird situation because neither of my parents will be there at the wedding but I just didn't expect her to make me seem so unimportant to her.

Omg do we share bridesmaids because I'm surrounded by the same type of flaky stuff. I put up a post like this last week. Just ignore them. You say something to them be prepared to be hit with the bridezilla title.

I guess it's something in the air because my BMs are getting on ny nerves too. Im sorry she blewing u off. I think uve might of been too nice to them and its back firing. They r ungrateful.