What to do when the fiance doesn't want a honeymoon

Have you thought about maybe a couple of days in a nice place? Doesn't have to be too fancy or anything but a couple of days in a nice hotel having fun, eating, talking and all that. Doesn't have to be expensive...
I understand where he is coming from though, we aren't having a honeymoon ourselves and I'm actually ok with that. But I totally understand wanting a honeymoon.

View Quoted Comment I've looked into Honeymoon Hills up in Gatlinburg. It's between $500-$800 for four nights, plus $600 worth of free tickets to places. I thought that was a good deal, but I'm still looking for something cheaper. Thanks! What are y'alls plans?

View Quoted Comment Geez! yeah, that is a bit pricey. Try to look at other places? Maybe something closer or something with all inclusive that makes it a bit better?

We are actually just coming back home lol, we live together so it's not much of a new thing for us.
The thing is, we are Hispanic. We are going to be "celebrating" the entire weekend (or so he is planning to) but my parents are going to be flying in so I wanna spend those days with them and I'm sure as all heck that the next Monday I'm going to have to go to work lol. We are in a tight budget and I have two jobs to keep, so a honeymoon was not in my mind from the beginning. I just want to marry this man lol
I do plan to have at least the morning after to just be with him and our cat and be giddy about being Mr and Mrs.

What about registering for a honeymoon fund? That way people can gift you the trip.

View Quoted Comment Whoa, that's a thing? How does that work?

What if you suggest to save up for a honeymoon? My fiancé and I can’t get our dream honeymoon (due to him not being able to leave the country) so we will do something small after we get married and use that time to save up for our dream honeymoon and have it 6 months after the wedding.

View Quoted Comment It's definitely a thing. How it works depends on which site you use. Here are some options: https://www.brides.com/story/top-honeymoon-registries

View Quoted Comment That’s what we are doing! We put ours on Zola on our wedding website! You can pick “cash funds” as an option for your list because for example my FH and I already live together and have for a long time so we don’t need anything that usually goes on a gift list so we but a honeymoon fund!

Even maybe getting away in an airbnb they are nice and cheap maybe an option

We are doing a. Mini moon right after the wedding then saving for a honeymoon about 7 months later

If it were me, I’d just book a honey moon or mini moon and surprise him with it. Even if it was a weekend getaway within a few hours of your hometown, if it’s all booked and paid for and he doesn’t need to plan anything, he may end up being really excited about it. In the mean time, I agree with looking into a honeymoon registry as others have said!

My guess is that he doesn't want to have a honeymoon because most people spend a lot on the wedding day and he might be worried about overall costs. For this reason, I really wouldn't recommend booking a surprise honeymoon, not to mention that it's a big cost, regardless of what you do for your honeymoon, so I would discuss it with your FH first. I'm not sure how many vendors you have booked for your wedding, but I would try to see if you can cut costs on the wedding and put that money towards a honeymoon.

I would look for some sort of weekend getaway. Do you 2 have a favorite place you like to go? We love Watkins Glen in NY. We are getting married 2 hours away from there and then spending a few days there at our favorite bed and breakfast.

Maybe talk with him and see if you can do something small right after the wedding? Then save up for a nice vacation/honeymoon later on. I know a lot of couples are doing that now, and a few of our friends that have done this say they liked it better. They were so exhausted after the wedding, that they just took a few days to recharge at home, then took a longer vacation a few months later and they were able to enjoy it more! I would talk with your SO and see if you can come up with some sort of compromise that would make both of you happy.

View Quoted Comment Please don’t surprise him if he does not
want to spend the money. If my fiancé and I had joint money I said no to something he spent the money any anyway then said Surprise! I would be mad. It is not a good surprise if you go against some ones wishes.

FH and I are doing a mini moon the weekend after our Thursday wedding, we will be driving somewhere within 3 hours of our hometown, place TBA. We don’t want to spend more than $350, and we have found several sweet AirBnB’s that would easily work and still give us some wiggle room for eating out.

View Quoted Comment I agree if it is joint money.

I would register for a honeymoon fund for your wedding to see if other people will contribute to the cost. And you can always check Groupon typically they have some decent travel deals! No where is cheap anymore sadly, makes it difficult to try new things.

There was a statistical study that looked at a bunch of different factors in marriage and divorce. It showed that couples who had a honeymoon were 41% less likely to divorce than those with no honeymoon so you can point that out!

Life’s too short, if you guys wouldn’t be going into debt for the honeymoon there’s no reason not to go!

As great as it would be to take a mini trip post wedding, we are going to forgo the honeymoon. We LOVE to travel (he proposed in Ireland), and we want some big trips in our future. The wedding itself is something we have to save for, so we are saving up for our next trip after. We are hoping to at least take a couple of days off after the wedding to relax without responsibilities (like ordering in, and eating on paper plates, no dishes or cleaning, possible camping in backyard for an adventure).