What to do when maid of honor cannot attend

I would probably keep it as only having bridesmaids. I think it would make the bridesmaids feel weird moving up into that role and also might be weird for your MOH to feel like she’s been replaced.


Sorry you’re having to deal with this!

I would just not have a MOH.

View Quoted Comment Also my fiance will have a best man.

View Quoted Comment I had a MOH and my wife didn’t. It made no difference in our day.

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Can your maid of honor make a video of her speech you can show the day of ? Like she can dress up and make a video so Itis like she’s there ?

I’m sorry! My FH’s best man lives in South Korea and can’t make it either. He decided to ask his only groomsman to step into that role, but guys seem to be less concerned about that kind of thing than my co-MOHs are. I wouldn’t give the title to one of the BMs at this point, there’s no issue not having a MOH.

I would just continue on anyway

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I’m sorry for your situation! Even if she can’t physically stand with you, she still fills that role in your life and is your MOH. You may want to video chat with her during the getting ready process and it would be very sweet if she could give a virtual toast at the ceremony (if you will have a way to broadcast it). Good luck!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this idea. She make a video and send it to you then you could play it at the reception. It would be a nice way to still include her.

She simply can’t attend. But she’s still your MOH. So your bridal party is fine as is.

My MOH is from South Korea and had to decline being in the wedding because she has to get jaw surgery and will be finishing college. Not to mention the strict querntine rules there right now. She is basically my sister and it sucks to much to miss her at the wedding, but I reserved that spot for her and with how flakey my bridemaids have been I don't want to risk loosing another one.