So I know it is proper etiquette to host an open bar all night. The thing is that my fiancé and I don’t drink. We are actually both 2 years sober. I have a hard time paying upwards of $5,000 for alcohol for everybody else when we don’t even drink! We were thinking of hosting beer wine and soda. Wondering if people will be understanding of this given our situation (and yes mostly everyone knows that we are sober). Some people didn’t even think we would have alcohol at all!
My fiance and I both drink but we're only doing beer and wine. People get too sloppy with hard alcohol. Our venue allows outside alcohol so we're getting ours from totalwineandmore.com it should only cost us about $1000 for 80 people.
I have thought heavily on this topic! I've been a bartender for years, and while most of my friends are heavy partiers when given the chance, I also have MANY sober friends (with all different reasons), AND I come from a very religious family. That being said, while the future hubs, myself and many of our friends still drink on occasion (or more), we are all very understanding and respectful when it comes to our sober friends' personal choices -- and IMO if there is anyone on your guest list who can't be respectful of that, maybe they don't deserve to be a part of your special day! Furthermore, if you two are still going to be so awesome as to still provide beer and wine, your guests should be pretty pumped.
You absolutely do not have to have any alcohol at all. I've been to a wedding without liquor and, brought my own. I'm also attending a wedding in June that won't have alcohol. The wedding in June, the groom is a recovering alcoholic and prefers not to have it. So, we all will respect that. Just like the wedding I attended in 2012, they both were in a DUI accident and did not wish to serve. You don't have to serve it at all. However, if you wish or feel that you must, you can simply serve beer and wine or you can do a cash bar. It's not unheard of. You can also have a limited time for the open bar. Many venues work with you. I hope this helps.
I think you guys should do what you feel would be best. Personally, if you guys don't want to provide alcohol because you guys are sober, then I would hope that your guests would understand. If you guys just want to accommodate everyone, then I would do a cash bar. If they would like to drink, then they could pay for it. We are doing beer and wine, but we are drinking as well. I think this decision should be totally up to you guys!