What should the Mothers wear?

Mothers do not have to be in wedding colors. My mom is wearing a blueish/green (kind of a dark teal) dress and I have no idea what FMIL is wearing. I left it up to them.

My FMIL is wearing a long green dress. My stepmom doesn’t know what color she wants yet but he tends to go for darker blues and my mom likes purple a lot so together they might look like a mermaid trio my grandmother really loves gold so she’ll probably do that. I don’t really mind what they wear, as long as they are comfortable. Our wedding colors are burgundy blush and gray and none of them wanted the palette suggested and I’m fine with that.

I had no idea what any of our parents or grandparents were wearing until they showed up to the wedding. They aren’t in pictures with wedding party so there is no clashing. Let them wear whatever they want as long as it’s the appropriate formality.

My mom actually bought her dress for a different event but ended up not wearing it for that event. It went with my color scheme, was appropriate for a mother of the bride dress and she liked it, so I let her wear it. I was picky about having everyone coordinate, so I sent a photo of the dress to my MIL, who then found a dress to go with it. I will say though that the color they wore was one of my accent colors as oppose to one of the main colors. Also, they both expected to be in coordinating dresses from the beginning.

I don’t think it matters at all. My mom wore ivory and pastel pink/green, and my grandma wore navy blue. Family photos don’t have to “match”

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I'm very glad that this has been the overall consensus because that is exactly how I feel. They don't need to match but she said it's weird if parents aren't in wedding colors so I am not sure where she picked that up from.

My mom is either wearing a dark purple dress or a silver/ gray one. She couldn't decide when we went shopping so she is going to decide later. I'm hoping she picks the purple one (I didn't want to tell her but I think it looks nicer on her). The only color I didn't really want her to wear was blue and that's because that's the color the bridesmaids are wearing. I don't think they need to match the bridal party or wear wedding colors.

I think back in the day the tradition was for the mothers to coordinate dresses, and I think the mother of the groom was supposed to coordinate off of the mother of the brides dress. At least that’s what my grandma has told me a few times. At first I worried about what they were going to wear and when my FMIL kept asking what color purple I was going with, it stressed me out thinking she was going to match the wedding party. But now I’ve decided I don’t really care what they wear or what color as long as their comfortable in what they are wearing.

My family worn whatever they wanted. Our colors were red and black and none of them based their outfits on our colors.

Mother of the bride - light purple

Mother of the groom - dark purple

Father of the bride - gray tux

Father of the groom - black suit

Father of the groom's fiance - bluish/purpleish

Grandmother on my mom's side - navy

Grandmother on my dad's side - black

Grandfather on my mom's side - black pants, white dress shirt, black tie and brown suit jacket

We did not plan on the moms both wearing purple that's just how it happened to work out. My grandmother on my mom's side sent me a million pictures because she wanted me to like the dress she got. I picked out what my dad was wearing since he didn't what to go shopping for something to wear. My father-in-law already owned a suit so that's what he worn. My grandfather also already owned the suit jacket and black pants that he worn. I had no clue what my grandmother on my dad's side was wearing until she showed up. She had asked my mom how I would feel if her dress was almostly white and my mom told her to pick a dress that wasn't mostly white.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I don’t think it matters at all. I actually think it looks kinda weird if the family looks too uniform lol.

One mom is wearing navy blue and the other is wearing gold. I let them pick whatever they wanted.

Mothers don't have to match with the wedding. They will look fine in whatever. My mom was in dark blue, my mother in law was in burgandy, bridesmaids were in light blue. It looked fine.

Traditionally, the mother of the bride chooses a dress first, and then the mother of the groom coordinates. However, these days, that's asking for trouble. I think all you can do is to tell FMIL that you have not made a definite decision about your own colors yet, so you have no idea whether it will clash. She can then make up her own mind about whether to keep the dress or return it. And if they do clash, it's not the end of the world. Typically, there are not a lot of photos of the mothers with the bridal party. And with all the dresses that people will be wearing, you can't prevent someone from clashing with someone else.

My mom is matching with my color scheme for the wedding. My FMIL still needs to purchase her dress. Your mother and MIL should NOT match!! Your mother needs to be the one to stand out because she is the mother of the bride. Just saying. Tell your FMIL that you still don't have a color scheme and when you do, you will get back to her with dress colors.

My mother wore a blue/purple dress that didn’t go with the bridesmaid dresses but didn’t clash either. Although that was just luck. MIL wore a white dress sparsely decorated with black flowers. Yeah. I was thrilled.

My mom is wearing a long navy blue dress, and I have no idea what my FMIL is wearing. It's their decision, and they certainly don't need to match my wedding colors (Burgundy and Olive). my mom was actually very concerned because she DIDN'T want to match our colors. I'd say let them wear whatever they're comfortable in.

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Really?! a white dress with black flowers. for real.

View Quoted Comment Yup. Like I said, I was utterly thrilled once I had a chance to think about it. During the wedding/reception it didn’t really cross my mind.