what should my bridesMAN wear?

They should wear what the rest of the BP wears; same dress/ suit.

I agree with analy, they should wear the same thing the rest of the BP wears. No reason she should need to wear a suit unless she wants to (seems kind of business-y to me). If you want them to stand out as different, make his bout match your bridesmaid bouquets, and make her bouquet match the groomsmens' bouts.

Yeah, maybe have him wear a dark plum suit. Also, his boutenneire (or however you spell it) can be extra flowery, since the bridesmaids usually have a bouquet, which obviously has more flowers than a boutenneire. Also, if you haven't already, consider having programs so that people can read that he is on your side.

Hubby wants her to look more like the guys, so a suit she shall wear (although she likes the dress the bridesmaids picked lol). That was my original idea, she wear the same dresses as the other gals, and he wears a tux or suit like the other guys. But then we wanted people to know which side they stood on at the reception. I lke the different flower options

My cousin had a bridesman and a groomsmaid. The bridesman wore the same style tux with a burgandy jacket and black vest with a big boutonniere. The BM's had burgandy dresses with black sashes. The groomsmaid had a black dress, same style as the BM's with a burgandy sash and a crosage. The GM had black tuxes with burgandy vests and small boutonnieres. Maybe you can do something like that.

Oh and Jenny, yes we are doing programs, but they won't be reading them at the reception

I agree with the pp. I don't see why he can't wear a suit and she can't wear the same dress as the bridesmaids. I read that your FH wants her to wear a suit, but does she mind?? She's not a dude--shes a girl!! =)

If I were the groomswoman, I would be offended by that. She is not a man, why should she dress like one? Perhaps she can wear a different colored dress, but she will be sitting on his side of the table, and will be announced with HIS party. What more does he need? I dunno, I would not be game for that, but JMO.

Oh...I guess I should have said she's a tomboy. She is more comfortable in pants, but she will be wearing a skirt for us. But since she liked the dress, maybe I can drill that into him and have him change his mind It would be tons less complicated!

Ooh Danie had a good suggestion, actually. Since she likes the BM dresses, can't your FH compromise by letter her wear the same dress in a dark color to match the suits? Just because she's standing on his side doesn't mean she should have to feel un-feminine. How does she feel about all of this? I feel like it's something a man wouldn't necessarily think about too hard, and maybe he doesn't realize that she might be uncomfortable with it (I don't even know if she is or not, but it might be worth exploring).

I'm not sure how common dark plum suits are, but what about a regular suit with a dark plum tie, vest and pocket square, then what ever flowers your ladies are carrying, he could have a boutineer..

I am having mine wear the same suit as the groomsmen but he will have a tie that matches my bridesmaid dresses

I like the regular suit with the color accents

I am considering doing this. My GM will be in light grey suits, so any grooms women would be in the same dress as BM but in light grey. My BM will be in navy blue, so any bridesmen would be in navy blue suits. This way all men are dressed like men and all women dressed like women, but they match the side of the bridal party they are on.