What should i put for Attire?

You shouldn't mention the dress code on your invitations at all. Your venue and invitations should indicate the formality of the event, but if you really need to, you could mention it on your wedding website.

View Quoted Comment Well I’m worried the guests will think because it’s partially outside then they can dress casual. I’m not sure if we will be doing a website yet. Is there a reason why it shouldn’t be on the invitation? If its on the website wouldn’t it be the same as if it’s on the invite?

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It's considered rude to tell guests how to dress for an event unless it's black tie.

You could put "Formal" or "Black Tie Optional" on your website. Ours is semi-formal and I'm assuming people will wear dress pants, I'd be fine with summer dresses though and dress jeans. If you list a formal dress code though, guests (or at least I would) will expect more formal weddings things like valet or provided transportation, favors/menus/programs, several course plated meal, open bar, champagne toast, etc.

I said semi formal for mine. But if you feel the venue is fancy then formal.

I wouldn’t do formal or black tie optional unless your FH is 100% wearing a tux. The bride and groom, followed by the wedding party and parents should always be the most formally dressed. Are your bridesmaids wearing long dresses and are the groomsmen also wearing suits or tuxes?

Im from Minnesota so I know exactly what you mean I would maybe do an information card or something that states "Formal Attire" or something. Or if you're doing a website you can state it there.

I would use semi formal. Against others opinions, we put it on a details insert with our invitations. We are having a very casual wedding and allowing jeans so we thought it was important to have that info with the invitations since most people would just assume they need to dress up. Regardless of what people claim, not everyone will look on your website and some may not even know how or have access!

I put cocktail attire on my wedding website. There is an actual place under the wedding section to put the desired dress attire. I am also getting married in a vineyard, and we are doing outside and a barn. So I am on the same page as you.

This information typically goes either on your wedding website or the details card when you mail invitations. We didn't do a details card so we listed our attire on our website as Semi-Formal or Dressy Casual.

I put "Formal Attire" on the details card in my invitation. It is mostly for my family. I have been spreading thru word of mouth that it is a formal event with long dresses and suits and ties. FH's family is Armenian and every wedding including ours is super formal, 300+ guests, long sparkly dresses, pro hair and makeup, valet, high end alcohols, and 20+ course dinner. My family has no idea what to expect so I figured it's better if I put it on the card before they show up in sundresses and polos.

We got married at a vineyard and had a formal wedding. We put formal/black tie optional on our wedding website but most guests got the hint when they received an engraved invitation. My husband was in a tux and we had a plated multi course meal.

View Quoted Comment Maid of honor will be wearing long dress and vest man will be wearing a suit (won’t be having bridesmaids)

View Quoted Comment Part of our family is Persian so I know they will be really dresses up no matter what the invitation says, it’s just how we do weddings. But we don’t have the money for such an extravagant wedding.

I am absolutely putting on the RSVPs (in a nice way) that jeans and shorts are not ok for adults but comfortable shoes are requested.
It is very common for a couple of male friends whom we adore to wear jeans to a wedding. It is 100% ok, if not preferred, to let the guests know what attire to wear. Some weddings are very formal while others extremely casual.

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I like that they put so much emphasis on the formality of a wedding but who has the money for all of it! People go into such debt to pay for these weddings. When we started planning I said we are on a budget, there will not be dancers, fireworks, or 11 foot tall cakes, we can't afford it!

I've received several invitation where the preference dress code was listed and I never once thought it rude. I appreciate the couple communicating their vision of the day. Being from Minnesota (originally from the Iron Range for all of those who know what that is) I totally understand having that to certain people, dressing up is a clean pair of jeans and tshirt. For our wedding, we listed cocktail attire/ semi formal. What that is suppose to entail: men in dress pants and shirt and I believe tie optional. Ladies a nice dress or skirt with a nice blouse.

You can include a details card with your invitation suite that mentions "formal attire."

We put it on our website and on our information card that it is dress casual. We are from Western Massachusetts and there are a lot of "hill towns" so some people believe in the clean jeans and t-shirt thing. While I'm not exactly a fashionable person, I believe a wedding is not a place for jeans and I wanted to make sure we expressed this.

I think dress code on the invite is fine. You can do an insert with questions and answers if you need more details ect.
Personally I have no idea how to gauge an invitation to a wedding, they all look the same to me, so I think the whole "the wording will tell them" is a piece of garbage advice. If it means a lot to you write semiformal on the invite.