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Beginner July 2020

What should i do?

Brianna, on May 28, 2020 at 1:12 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11
Hey ladies! I need some opinions. So unfortunately I cancelled my huge wedding that was suppose to happen this September. Me and my fiancé still plan to get married on that day but I’m unsure if I just want it to be our parents and siblings ONLY that attend our ceremony or should I just narrow down our originally list and maybe make it about 50 people max?? I legit go back and forth everyday with my decision. But I know I need to make one fast.

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Latest activity by Willow, on May 28, 2020 at 7:48 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    If you did a 50 person event, would you need to rent a new venue?

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    Beginner July 2020
    Brianna ·
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    Yes I would! 🤦🏻‍♀️
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  • Sara
    Expert August 2021
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    We have not canceled our wedding for September (yet) and I have already decided that if I had to postpone I would do courthouse with just parents and siblings and re-plan the big deal for next year. I really wanted everyone to be there for our big day.
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    Beginner July 2020
    Brianna ·
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    I thought about maybe doing a big one next year as well! Thank you!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    This is a very personal decision, but if I was in your shoes, I would do immediate family only. It would be too difficult for me to pick and choose between our extended family and friends to decide who gets to make up the rest of the guest list.
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    Beginner July 2020
    Brianna ·
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    Very true! Thank you!
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Were you gonna postpone the big celebration to next year or anything? if so, i would say just go with immediate family then and don't plan for a 50 person event. but if you've not intentions of postponing your giant celebration to later and cancelled it altogether, then yeah 50 is ok.

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    How big is your original guest list?

    Ours was about 80 people, and I could have whittled it down to 50 people but probably not 40. Keep in mind the 50 people limit imposed by some states includes everyone on site, including you and your partner, your photographer, officiant, and other event staff like servers, etc so a 50 person gathering limit is not the same as wedding with 50 guests.


    If going to 50 people is a simple enough adjustment, you can consider that, but I think immediate family will likely be a more comfortable experience for your guests as well, since they are all family and know each other. Your family members might feel more comfortable gathering with and enjoying the company of people they already know rather than strangers, so that is something to consider as well. I'd rather have an event with fewer guests but people that all felt comfortable hugging, sharing food, etc rather than more people but everyone feeling kind of on edge and like they need to keep their distance. I also feel like I can trust certain people more to take precautions so would feel more comfortable in a group of people practicing social distancing and good hygiene rather than those that kind of flout the rules.

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    This is exactly what I would suggest!

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    Champion July 2019
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    I would just do immediate family. I feel like it would be too difficult to narrow it down to fifty people because at that point you are picking and choosing which family members and friends are your favorite. Your guests would be more understanding if you did just immediate as opposed to fifty people.

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    VIP September 2020
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    We're doing immediate family only. We want to minomize the financial and health risks. It's also emotionally tasking to keep changing plans because of covid.
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