What should i do if i think somebody might wear white?

I would think to play it up instead of getting angry. may get used to the idea and if she does wear white tell people this is your twin but that only I ended up with the best husband ever. If she doesn't wear white, tell her you are bummed. You were already to blend that all into the chats the reception.

It seems like she might just want to challenge the tradition or the courtesy. There is not much you can do to stifle her attitude.

Honestly, it sounds like she’s saying this and did it to your sister to get attention. So I wouldn’t even entertain it. At the end of the day, the only person who will look stupid in that situation is her. Other guests will just see what kind of attention-seeking behavior it is and pay her no mind.

You can’t stop her so I would ignore her and not give her the attention she is looking for. If she does wear white, she will be the one people will be side eyeing.

It sounds like she’s trying to get a rise out of you. I wouldn’t give her the satisfaction; if she does show up in a white dress, she’s the one people will side-eye, not you. I wouldn’t comment on it - don’t give her the satisfaction. Just have your photographer edit her dress to a lovely shade of vomit green in any photos that she’s in.

You can't control her actions, only your own. If you don't respond or react, this becomes boring for her. She's the one who's going to look stupid if she shows in white

Absolutely nothing. If she is going to do that, she’s going to make a fool of herself in front of everyone anyway. Also, if she sees you’re not affected, it’s not going to be fun for her to keep teasing you.

I would tell her she's invited, but not allowed to wear white. Tell your planner to keep an eye out for her. If she shows up in white, have a very ugly dress on standby and have your planner to her she can choose to change into that ugly dress or she can leave. That's how I'd handle it :-)

I wouldn't say a word, it sounds like she's trying to get a reaction out of you don't give her one. If she shows up in a white wedding dress the only one she s making look foolish is herself. Try not stress over it and enjoy your engagement and wedding day!

People like that who have no respect for you don’t need to be invited. Family can complain all they want but if you don’t set and maintain boundaries with consequences, you are allowing them to bully you.


Some people will say to hire security and have them removed, have your bridesmaids pour red wine on them and other juvenile behavior that doesn’t make you look more mature than they are. The best thing to do, beyond not inviting them is to not say a word and pretend they are not there.

If she sends you any more messages like that, I'd respond with something along the lines of "wow, I'm really sorry you're so desperate for attention that you'd do something so tactless. I can only imagine how hurt you'll be when you're that desperate for people to look at you, only to have them whisper about how selfish and rude you are." Then I'd ignore any response she sends back.