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What ridiculous reasons have you heard for people not attending a wedding?

mrswinteriscoming, on November 25, 2021 at 3:01 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

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I read somewhere today that someone didn’t attend a wedding because they felt the couple who invited them were selfish for not giving them a plus one because they were single.

It was also not long ago that a friend told me that a whole family invited to his wedding refused to attend because the 1 year old child of one of the invitees wasn’t invited (despite it being a child free wedding).
This makes me wonder, just for laughs - what other ridiculous excuses have you yourself heard or heard through the grapevine for people giving to not go to a wedding?

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Latest activity by Mrs.a, on November 30, 2021 at 3:32 AM

Devoted February 2022
Chloe · on November 25, 2021 at 3:39 AM
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FHs uncle wrote us a note explaining that he won't attend the wedding because "the future is too uncertain"... Whatever that's supposed to mean.
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Master January 2019
Cassidy · on November 25, 2021 at 7:45 AM
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My 4 cousins left our wedding before dinner was served because they had to take their dog out 🙄
It wasn’t a decline, but it should have been.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on November 25, 2021 at 8:55 AM
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AFTER my hubby’s boss RSVP’d “yes” for him & his wife, they didn’t show because they were too tired/busy that day. 😡
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Kim · on November 25, 2021 at 10:40 AM
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I wouldn’t attend a wedding if they didn’t invite my bf of 4 years (now, my fiance) and I wouldn’t go to a destination wedding if I was single and didn’t get a plus one. I think both are perfectly valid reasons to not attend. Weddings are not that fun if you don’t know anyone there
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needmorewine · on November 25, 2021 at 12:08 PM
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IMO there are no ridiculous reasons to RSVP no to a wedding invitation. It's said here all the time that it's an invitation, not a summons, and people are free to decline for any reason they see fit. It doesn't mean that they don't care about the couple or they aren't supportive of the marriage.
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Master February 2022
Rosie · on November 25, 2021 at 6:21 PM
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Ooh I'm looking forward to reading more of these! We haven't had any wild ones so far (sitting at about 68% responded so far, so we have time still I guess!)
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Beginner November 2021
Angela · on November 25, 2021 at 10:46 PM
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I didn’t have any crazy excuses, but 21 people who rsvp’d yes did not show up to the wedding…
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Mrs. Coakley · on November 26, 2021 at 5:29 AM
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Not for my wedding but for my baby shower last year my DH's grandma said she wasn't coming bc she was "having too much fun in Texas" -- she was visiting DH's uncle at the time and was supposed to come back WEEKS prior. Like whatever, I know baby showers are boring but just lie. Say you're sick, flight issues etc.. The way she said it was just an asshole move.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on November 26, 2021 at 9:54 AM
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21 no shows???? That’s SO much wasted money. 😫
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Angela · on November 26, 2021 at 8:12 PM
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Yea… I know… but I think the no shows hurt my feelings more than the money did…
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Kristin · on November 27, 2021 at 2:01 PM
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One of my cousins declined because “he had nobody to watch his dog” … despite the fact that his fiancé had already said she couldn’t make it so she would have been home.
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Cristal · on November 27, 2021 at 7:44 PM
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I don’t think not going because of a kid is a ridiculous reason. I wouldn’t go if my children couldn’t, I dislike leaving them in the care of others.
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Emilia · on November 28, 2021 at 9:26 AM
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Well, one of my aunts said she wouldn't come as her son wants to see a concert that night. She could just say that it's too far, too expensive.. I would understand! But that...
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mrswinteriscoming · on November 28, 2021 at 4:43 PM
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Oh gosh haha I have had difficulty planning holidays with friends in the past for that same reason but wow, to a wedding?!
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mrswinteriscoming · on November 28, 2021 at 4:45 PM
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Children at weddings is a contentious topic and while I myself couldn't think of anything worse than having my children at a wedding, obviously there are people who simply won't attend if it's not a child friendly wedding.
In that circumstance it was the fact that the whole family declined the invitation, not just the parents of the child, that's what made me go "wait what?!" when I heard about it.
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Samantha · on November 29, 2021 at 8:08 AM
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I agree, no shows are 1000 times worse than no-rsvps. At least you don't waste money on these people. My first wedding, my husband's SISTER didn't show up because she was mad I didn't have her daughter as a flower girl.. (I had NO flower girl or ring bearer) lol.
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Mrs.a · on November 30, 2021 at 3:32 AM
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A couple we invited rsvp’d & came after having confirmed their menu choices. They declined to bring their child in fear if them being unruly. At the cocktail hour they informed us that they had to leave because the person looking after their child didn’t want to drive home in the dark. It wasn’t anything that came up last minute, so it would have been nice if they had planned accordingly.
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