What part planning is stressing you out most?

Right now we are working on finalizing the guest list. Its very stressful trying to make each family happy with who they want to invite but still stay under a set limit of guests.

Right now for me it is finding the right person to do alterations. My dress is going to need quite a bit of work and I want it to be perfect. I don't want it to get messed up in any way.

Cutting our guest list and trying to get family to understand why we want a smaller affair. Also trying to tell them we can't invite people to an engagement party/shower without inviting them to the wedding. They think (including my fiance which is driving me INSANE) that this is an opportunity for people who won't be invited to the wedding to be involved. Like, what? Why would I want people outside of my wedding party and guest list to be involved??? Gahhhhhh ETA: It's also incredibly rude.

People being lazy and not sending the RSVP cards back because "you know I'll be there" is apparently an acceptable response.

I've gotten to the point that I've sent a password protected RSVP through a site so people can just do it on their phones and simplify the process.

Currently , I’m not stressed but I have been stressed about the kids that FH wants at the wedding . I “lost” this battle, but I would rather him be happy then me have a kidless wedding. I did stress out about my dress fitting (I should put down the donuts) but it came in this weekend and it..is...perfect !!! It’s going to work out for us Brides...it has to LOL

The entire part.

I'm with @KDoubleU, the seating chart. I haven't started it yet, but I am dreading that shit. I have family members that have decided to disown other family members...this will be fun. Oh, and this will be the first time they have been in the same space together since said disownment. Lovely.

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I'm freaking out slightly because my fiance is in charge of the caterer and music, it's really just a control thing there.

However, I'm going to set my damn arch on fire!!!! I can't find any way I like to decorate and I'm a month and a half out!!!

Tent flooring....it's a delivery headache that will add such an additional cost that now we're back to debating something that we already EXTENSIVELY debated before deciding on.

I would not say I have really stressed... but the worst thing was definitely the guest list. FH and I had to sit down and really get it down.. his mom wanted to have everyone, including old neighbors.. & FH is VERY social. He wanted to invite EVERYONE. Once he saw the number difference.. that changed real quick We got it down to 155, which made everything fall into budget.

Trying to keep my FH from accidentally telling people about our plans to elope. He doesn't mean to but he also doesn't think sometimes before he talks.

Guest list and hotel block. Many hotels in the city I've called are booked (10 months out) or won't do wedding block due to the large events going on our wedding weekend.

Managing other people's expectations.

Compiling addresses!!

TBH, we've had a great time planning so far, but with less than six months left, I am beginning to worry that it will all fall apart like a month beforehand. I just keep telling myself that I'll be married to him no matter what!

How to have my hair. It's the only thing giving me grief

Up until this past month, not a single thing. Within the last month .. all hell broke loose lol.

My venue was taken over by another large catering company and I was unsure they would honor my contract because it was written in there that they didn't have to in the event that was to happen.

My photographer also had my wedding day as 3/17/18 instead of 2/17 and neither I, nor my fiance caught it on our contract because, duhhhh we had gone over this with the guy so many times and even filled out our forms with 2/17, he made a typo and we didn't catch it. It wasn't until I emailed him right before Thanksgiving for his insurance forms for our 2/17/18 wedding to provide to our venue that he said he had us down for 3/17/18 and he is already booked for 2/17 so we were out a photographer and videographer 3 months before our wedding.

However .. everything has worked out so the stress is less!!

100% agree with the seating chart drama. It's OUTRAGEOUS how many people *refuse* to sit at the same table or even within eyesight of each other. No one seems to grasp the concept that you only have to sit at the same table to eat, otherwise you're mingling/dancing/spending time with people you DO want to see!

Other than that, all the vendors wanting final payments the same week in March is a pretty terrifying thought. And my 6am daily workouts are turning me into a delirious zombie.

But, everything's going to work out wonderfully for all of us! Just have to keep telling ourselves that

I think the hardest for me is keeping everyone informed. Our parents are contributing, and my mom is the only one who lives in the location we are getting married, so it's just so much back and forth between vendors, venue, my FH, my mom, and his parents, and even wedding party to get everyone on the same page. I am used to more doing everything myself and only telling people when to show up, not what other details to bring or what their preference for pictures, seating, food, music, ceremony readings, toasts, etc. is. It's exhausting. That and contacting people to check if they are coming to various wedding events, arranging transportation and lodging (we have 4 other RSVP events around the wedding- yikes).

Cutting down my guest list