What is your biggest Pet Peeve?

I agree with that! I've had multiple people say "I can't imagine spending that much on a wedding..." with a disapproving tone! It just seems super rude. We own a house, have VERY little debt (basically just our mortgage), and both have great jobs. My father is paying for 95% of the wedding, because he can afford it without going into debt too. So I don't know how people think they can comment on my wedding budget or wedding at all??

People saying that can't believe we're getting Married on Christmas Eve outside. Literally the only two things that were important to BOTH FW and I, were an outside ceremony and getting married on our anniversary. We are providing blankets, umbrellas, heaters, and having a short ceremony, we've thought about this, and we know whats important to us.

Currently, my biggest pet peeve is people inviting themselves to the wedding. It always creates an awkward conversation and I can't help but look bewildered. I started to give one person the "we have limited space so we can't invite everyone" talk but he interrupted with "well, if the church isn't big enough, I'll just come to the reception." ummmmmmmmmmm what?

I hate any money related questions for sure. I don't bring it up and try to be super vague when asked. Why must people know how much things cost? I don't ask people to see their grocery bill, or how much their last vacation cost... Why must they know what I'm spending on my wedding if I'm not asking them to contribute!?

View Quoted Comment How are you dealing???? I have relatives wanting to send other relatives on their bahave and think I'm crazy for saying no! It's killing me!

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WHAT? Who are these people that feel so entitled to your time! Good lord.

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It's crazy because the wedding is literally two years away. Certainly I won't have to deal with this for two years, right? And to your relatives, NO! The invitation was for you not someone else! Crazy.

I have 2 pet peeves. 1. Having to explain why we’re having a small courthouse wedding and dinner. 2. People acting as if my wedding isn’t still a wedding because it’s going to be 20 people and not 200 people. We’re still getting married, I’m still wearing a beautiful dress, he’s still wearing a handsome suite, we’re still getting a photographer, flowers, and a cake. We’re still having a first dance. This is still that happiest day of our lives.

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Exactly! The audacity. I could never bring myself to ask someone if I'm invited to their wedding.

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And to argue when you said they weren't! Politely even!

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Right. If you were on the maybe list, you certainly wouldn't make the cut after that.

I have one friend in particular who frequently asks me wedding questions. I answer. And she follows up with “how much was it? whose paying for it?”. Like...... how does she not know that’s rude to ask? Then when I say “we are” she always says “oh how will you do that? You just bought a house, wow your FH must be really well off”. Like it almost implies that she thinks I’m marrying into money or for money and NEITHER are the case. I love her to pieces, we’ve been friends for 20 years (since I was 6) and she came here from a different country so I always just pass it off as maybe she doesn’t understand it’s offensive?
She also was the ONLY person who was not excited when I told her I was engaged. Her response was “wow, isn’t it a little too soon for that?”- (1.5 years of dating and living together for 6mo)- she’s been with the same guy for 8 years... I told her I was confident in my relationship and couldn’t wait to marry the love of my life and her response? “Yeah I’ll get married some day but, I still have adventures to complete”, um... so do I but getting married doesn’t mean I can’t or I won’t- rather that I will have someone to adventure with. She drives me insane every time she talks about weddings so I’ve just been avoiding her or diverting the topic when I do talk to her

Yup, just be like "cool story, bro", and continue on with your day. If that's the kind of dress you want, and you can afford it without skimping on things like food and alcohol for your guests, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. And FTR, I don't think 5K is crazy for a wedding dress at all.

Pet peeve is definitely the price questions. But it really only comes from FH's cousins wife. They got married last June and FH and I were part of the wedding party. She would keep telling me how much she spent on everything and gave me a grand total at the end. Now she keep asking me where I'm at with the budget. When I told her I got my dress, first question was how much was it... when I told her it was $95 she asked if it was really what I wanted... really?!

View Quoted Comment I get that about 5x a week.

The thing I hated is people asking if I was going to start a work out plan or a diet before my wedding. I lost 15 pounds that I gained after buying my dress, but I stopped losing after that because it’s not super important to me. I’m a plus size bride, so what?! My partner loves me and the way I look. That’s all I care about.

View Quoted Comment THIS!! “You ave our address right??” Uhhh yeah but you will not be getting an invite. A coworker of mine tells me every day that she is just gonna show up and then tells everyone around us that I am “mean and won’t invite her”. She is “joking” when she says it but it’s the worst. And not funny. And I’m over it. Lol.

People telling me to elope. I didn't wait 10 years to elope thankyouverymuch. If I wanted that, I could've done it years ago. Had to wait until we could afford it. Especially when it was FMIL after trying to add more people to guest list (after I bought STDs, months after guest list given to me with all her family and friends) and then I tried to politely tell her no, we're over budget. Oh you should just elope. I want a big wedding, I just want it full of people I actually know, not strangers. My coworker said I shouldn't be nice and I should've just said it will be $X per person you want to add, if you want to add them then you have to pay lol.

My pet peeve is FH' s female friends (that he hasn't spoken to since before we even met) coming out of the woodwork now that he's engaged, asking to help me plan the wedding, or even insisting that they should be IN the wedding!