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Sarah
Devoted June 2018

What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

Sarah, on May 7, 2018 at 5:13 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 159

All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received?

I have two that come to mind:
1. A friend of mine didn't turn her RSVP in by the deadline. No biggie. I reached out and asked if she and her boyfriend were coming. Her response? "Possibly! Not sure yet." ... Ok. Asked her when she would know by, as we needed to let vendors know for their headcount purposes. Her response "I don't know, but vendors are usually pretty flexible about that stuff." Oh, really then? She did the same thing yesterday when I texted to ask if she was planning on attending my bridal shower next weekend that my MOH is throwing and privately reached out to her about. Same response: "event planners are usually flexible if you tell the that someone is 'iffy.'" Nevermind that my MOH is paying for a meal for her!

2. Had a family friend of FH return their RSVP with a paragraph written on the back that they would not be coming on account of their 11-year-old son and that we were not allowing children. We were both shocked that they went out of their way to complain about it!

Tell me your funniest/most shocking/rude responses to give me a laugh! Lord knows I need it Smiley laugh

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Latest activity by Laura, on August 20, 2018 at 11:19 PM
  • Emilie
    Super April 2019
    Emilie ·
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    I'm in early stages so I haven't had any yet! But I'm following this, just so I know what to expect! Lol
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  • MrsPreach2018
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    The funniest I've had is from my MIL. We paid for her dress and she originally picked out a $400 dress and was kinda set on it, till I told her she would need to pay for the othwr half.

    Next, she wanted us to have a flower girl and have her friends little girl, who we've never met.
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  • Lucky
    Devoted October 2018
    Lucky ·
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    Wow.... I can not believe that girl would not give you a solid answer, that is just rude!! I haven't sent out invitations yet, but I'm worried about the response i'll get from a few people.

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  • FME
    Master March 2018
    FME ·
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    Rudest: 8 people who RSVP “yes” didn’t show up, with no excuse.
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Yep. One guy told my husband he "broke up with his boyfriend last month". Okay? Not sure why that mattered. Don't bring him and come have fun. But nope. Just didn't show up.

    One guy FORGOT our wedding. Then got mad at us when we joked with him about it.

    His aunt put the invite in a drawer and forgot about it. His grandmother never sent it in. When people said "oh, they'll be there." I stood firm and told them I needed the cards that we stamped and addressed.

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    She still won’t! Lol her latest response was “count me in for some of the bach party for now. I can hang for a bit but can’t do the hotel.” 🤷🏼‍♀️ So funny but rude and annoying at the same time!

    And get ready ;-) MOST people have been great and gracious, but there’s always a select few!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Haha prepare yourself... the wedding guest entitlement is coming. Smiley xd
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Haha let me guess, she’s gone for a less expensive dress now? Smiley laugh Too funny. And how awkward on the flower girl!!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    That’s so annoying!!!! I’ve heard that unfortunately too often. There will be faces made at people who choose to do this at ours for years to come lol.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Good for you! We did the same thing. I’m really curious to see who, if anyone, doesn’t show up for no good reason/excuse. We have been hounding people! That’s funny y’all tried to joke with him and he got mad, sounds like you tried to let it roll off your shoulders!
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    JuneBride ·
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    If you put adults only there will be people who will complain and/or flat out tell you they aren't coming because of it. It's something you have to prepare for. I can name 20 people in my life that would do that. You will need thick skin for it. As for that friend of yours that's iffy, that's rude but at least she isn't saying yes and not show up. I think that would be worse.

    I haven't sent out mine, but it will be interesting to see what I get.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    We expected some complaints on the side or conversations with people about making exceptions (which have happened once or twice), but this is a friend of the family who had already tried to complain to FH’s aunt to no avail, to his OTHER aunt to no avail, then finally wrote the paragraph to us in the RSVP. A bit overkill! especially considering all of my actual blood family with kids have been understanding and gracious about it. We just laugh about it now, but it just shocked us that he went that far.

    Get ready for the shock and laughs! Smiley laugh
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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
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    Following!
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    Dedicated November 2018
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    I honestly am so afraid of the responses I will get! My FH family hates me so I can only imagine the responses I'll get 🙄
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    It is interesting that she wanted an expensive dress until she had to pay part of it, that seems pretty rude to me. Especially since she changed her mind with having to pay for half of it, but will for the engaged couple to pay for the full price. Then to ask you have a friends dsught we that you don't know be a flower girl, that is so awkward. Those roles dont need to he filled if youvdont know someone who could take them.
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  • Mandi
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    I was shocked but we did not hear one complaint about this. Now, our families may have and never told us but I was preparing myself for a fight and it never happened!

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  • Mrs_Jenkins
    Devoted June 2018
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    I have TWO and I don't get married until January.

    The first was the most recent, we had a Nacho Bar potluck at work, and we all indulged in the snacks that everyone brought, and someone brought in a tres-leches cake, and I was super excited, it's been a long time so yeah, I wanted a piece. WELL, the girl I sit next to decided to voice her opinion by saying OUT LOUD "Don't you want to fit into your wedding dress?" Mind you I already purchased my dress, it's in my closet, & YES I FIT IN IT.

    YEAH. I was livid for a few hours.

    My FH's momma, bless her heart, asked if were were going to have the wedding half way between here and there, so that her side of the family didn't have to travel. Let that sink in. EVERYONE WOULD HAVE TO TRAVEL. She said "Some of the family is complaining they have to travel so far."

    We planned over a year in advance, we gave 11 months notice on STD's, and we expect some people to not show because of it, but we kept that in mind when we decided we wanted it HERE.

    & all the family she referred to have been super sweet, asking if we need help, and/or can't wait for the wedding.

    Just thought it was super rude to ask to move it to be "closer" to one side of the family.



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  • Daria
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    So far I've only really dealt with people assuming they will be invited. And FH implying to anyone who inquires that they will be. His friends, I'm not getting involved. We are set on 80 guests and have agreed to split the list evenly. He can deal with it.

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  • Jessica
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    Long story. We had an issue with our venue where they really messed up, and we were rushed to the manager's office who was kind enough to include free extras in our contract to compensate for their screwup.
    MFIL wanted MORE desserts (we're already having cake, ice cream, donuts, pastries served family style) and MORE alcohol (we have the second most expensive liquor package with an open bar as well). She wanted it all on the house.
    When FH told her that was a bit of overkill and we appreciated what the venue offered, and I also told her I wouldn't get to enjoy MORE desserts and MORE liquor (I'm diabetic), she proceeds to tell me that "the wedding isn't for me, but its for her guests".
    Yes. Let that sink in. HER guests.
    I understand the whole thing about the reception being for the guests, but all of a sudden our wedding turned into her guests' wedding.
    Like what.
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    Just Said Yes June 2019
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    Omg!!thats crazy ... that’s crazy you know I had a few coworkers at work that they better be invited to my wedding and I was like really I don’t even know you and do you know how many people I know I asked to check if she knew how much a wedding, she doesn’t because she doesn’t even have a boyfriend
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