What is the Couple's Dance?

I'm not familiar with the term. I would ask your DJ.

I've seen it done where the dj will call out anniversary years and if you haven't been married that long you sit down. It goes until one couple is left as the longest married.

It does sound like it's similar to an anniversary dance, like @Kelly is describing. If there are people on your guest list that it would be painful for (which you've said there are), then I'd probably skip it.

What if instead of a designated couples dance, the DJ says "This next song is a special request of bride's dad. We invite everyone onto the floor to join Coffee and Husband, and Coffee's parents." ?

It would also be nice if the photographer can get a photo of my parents and other couples dancing together.

I obviously don't want to cause pain to FILs but I'm trying to find a middle ground.

I've never been a fan of the anniversary dance for a variety of reasons. One of which is it gets people off the dance floor when they should be on it.

I like what you proposed-- i.e. just inviting everyone on to the floor. that way people who aren't in a couple feel like they can join in.

I like that idea @coffee! I think that would be appropriate.

@WendyC Possibly? We have our meeting with him in a few days so I will leave it blank for now and ask at our meeting.