What is a Wedding Shower?

You have 3 stars... Why are you trolling....

No no no honeyfund. This has to be fake.

Please stop telling people to donate money to your honeyfund. Honeyfund is a bad word.

You literally said that you were telling people they could contribute to your honeymoon fund...

Are you interested in a bridal shower or couples shower?

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Yes, showering you (or you and FH) with gifts is the purpose, usually for you home. There's not really a way around that.

Bridal showers are for women and the guest of honor is the bride. Wedding showers are for both men and women and both the bride and groom are the guests of honor.

You invite the people on your wedding guest list who are closest to you. For example: for a bridal shower, you might invite your female relatives, his female relatives, and any female friends you would like to be there. Keep in mind, all of these people must also be invited to your wedding. Do not invite someone who will not be invited to your wedding.

You don't necessarily need fine china. Some people like to have it to use when hosting a special dinner. If you and FH don't want it, don't register for it.

You said any advice was welcome, so I'd suggest ditching the honeyfund. It's tacky to ask for money. If you create a small registry or no registry at all, most people get the hint and just give you money.

Hi Whitney! Where are you from? Bridal showers are very common in the US, but a lot of wedding traditions are regional so I'm curious where you live!

Bridal showers are a small celebration in honor of the bride that are held before the wedding, and yes they are literally to "shower" the bride with gifts They are typically only for women, but co-ed couples showers are becoming really popular recently! Only guests who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower, and they are typically smaller affairs (30 people or less). Normally held during the day for brunch, lunch, or small food bites and you play silly bridal games and open your gifts in front of everyone.

If you really don't want any physical gifts then I would politely decline the offer of a shower, or try to be creative and do something like a recipe shower - where instead of bringing gifts everyone brings their favorite recipe and you can put them all together into a cookbook!

FYI - honeyfunds / cash registries are a very hot topic on here. Use the search function to check out some of the past discussions

You didn't even edit the original post which discusses honeyfunds before proclaiming that you never mentioned one.....

You said "My fi and I have been telling people in liu of gifts they are welcome to donate to the honey moon fund."...Those are your words . Honeymoon fund and honeyfund are the same thing.

You can have a coed party, create a small registry and let people who want to get you gifts have some choices to choose from. Put towels, bedsheets, kitchen appliances, etc on your registry. But don't suggest money. It's considered tacky.

You should invite only people you are inviting to your wedding.

Donate to the honeymoon fund vs go to honeyfund.com or whatever the site is are two different things. Make mountains out of a molehill why don't you all. To the two who answered my questions rather than getting butt hurt. Thank you. you cleared it up! Have a good day. And I hope everyones butthurt salve comes in the mail soon so they will feel better.

LOL, she just called you all dicks...

Here is my advice. Don't suggest people give you money instead of gifts (that's what you're doing by saying "in liu of gifts they are welcome to donate to the honey moon fund"). Create a registry with a few items that people can buy for you. They don't have to be household items like China, or forks, or towels...do you and FH have a hobby? I put a lot of outdoor and camping items on my list.

Amazon has a wedding registry with endless items to choose from. When you get married people WANT to buy you things, so I would just let them.

Bait, bait, and more bait.

You totally said you have a honeyfund in your initial post: "My fi and I have been telling people in liu of gifts they are welcome to donate to the honey moon fund."

To directly quote you:

"My fi and I have been telling people in liu of gifts they are welcome to donate to the honey moon fund. "

That's a honeyfund. Asking people for money in any form is rude. If you want guests to give you money, don't set up a registry. Most will get the hint but some will give you physical gifts anyway if that's what they prefer. If you don't want a shower, tell those that offered to host "thank you for the offer, but since we are not registering for gifts a shower is not necessary." If they insist on throwing you a pre-wedding party, maybe suggest an engagement party.

What do you think a honeymoon fund is then? It's asking people for money which is the same thing as a honeyfund.

And it sounds like you're the one who is bootybothered.

Also why delete all of your comments?

Ok wow, took my comment a little while to post.

@Whitney please review our Community Guidelines - name-calling and personal insults are not ok https://www.weddingwire.com/corp/legal/community-guidelines

While you may not like that others find cash registries tacky, everyone can share their opinions and criticize ideas, but not other forum users!

I think you got butt hurt.

You called us names lol

Honey moon fund? Same shit as a honey fund.

We aren't confusing you with anybody else.

If you don't want gifts, decline the shower, since that's pretty much the reason for the shower.

Last I looked I still had a vagina, so the dick comment doesn't apply here.

If you are dead set on having a shower, and not accepting gifts, you can have a bbq instead and invite whomever you want.

Don't act all butt hurt over people giving you advice you don't want to hear.

It doesn't matter if you do it through a website or not. As I said in my initial answer, asking for money at all is rude.