What Information Should I Give My Bridesmaids?!

Try not to be too organized- booklets and such are tossed to the side. A contact list of all the bridesmaids would be good- if they all know each other. If they don't- then maybe schedule a fun, cheesy webcam chat to get to know each other. A mini- girls night in- pajamas, fuzzy slippers, a glass of wine and stupid games required.

Talk to them about timelines, casually. "Rehearsal dinner is Friday at 6, and I'd like us to all go get pedicures before. I know I'm asking alot, but do you think you could fly in Thursday night- or even Wednesday? I know that would be extra time off work..."

I assume they are all staying in the same hotel- so what about nearby restaurants and bars worth visiting.

I assume you'll have the wedding info- how you've arranged for them to be transported to get their hair done, the wedding ceremony and reception site and back to the hotel...

But if they need to know it this far in advance- they'll also ask.

Also let them know their monetary requirements; like if they have to pay for the whole dress, shoes, jewelry, etc. typically if you require them to get their hair/makeup done you pay for that

Thanks girls! lots of good advice!!

Hey date twin! Usually all they want to know at this point is what they have to buy. The other arrangments can be brought up later. All of my girls live in different states so I usually send an e-mail out to all of them when anything major happens affecting them.

I also just send off a quick email ... I'll get them a contact list in case they want to get to know each other better or heaven forbid plan me some silly SURPRISE party (I hate surprises) ... but it's up to the individual bride ... I've had brides tell me just make sure you are at the venue by 2pm, be dressed and others who have been like okay please be at my place by 10am Friday morning so we can get our nails and pedicures done ...

I think you should politely ask them if they are willing to be involved with everything that you want them to help with. That way you don't have unexpressed expectations and they can think about whether they are willing to do everything you expect/ have planned. Some brides on here get very hurt because their bridesmaids don't help them with X,Y, and Z, even though they never explicitly stated that they wanted/ expected help with that from their bridesmaids.

I agree with DDDRosie. You need to find out how much they want to be involved. Some want to go all out. Some just want to be there the day of your wedding with their dress on and that's it.

WHat s the idea