What if you couldn't afford a gift?

If I were that strapped for cash, I would probably RSVP no (unless of course I was very close with that person). If I had already RSVP'd yes then I would probably borrow off my credit card until payday or give a late gift. I couldn't imagine not giving anything- I would feel pretty rude.

Etiquette of a wedding says I have a year to give a gift - I've used it before...

Oh and I DO NOT believe in the covering the cost of your plate crap. The role of a wedding is not to ultimately get gifts = to the amount the wedding costs...

I'd put it on my credit card or borrow either from my FH or parents until I got paid. Just last week my mom went to a bridal shower and borrowed $25 from me to help with getting a gift, but paid me back a couple days later, so I know I could always do the same with her if I needed to. I wouldn't miss a wedding just for that, unless there was travel involved that I couldn't afford.

ETA: Just realized you have a new pic, nice! Threw me off for a sec lol!

I would go and just get them a gift down the road when I can afford it!

I personally wouldn't go, I would send them a nice card in the mail. We just got married and didn't get gifts from several people, 2 of them my bridesmaids. No card even.

I would go if I RSVP yes bring a card hinting for them to be on the lookout for a future gift, and send a nice fat check when I could. In our circle though, it isn't odd to get or give a gift after the wedding. I read somewhere that guests have up to one year to send a wedding gift.

I would go, and would send them a card or a gift asap afterwards. I don't think I'd wait an entire year to gift a gift though. That seems a little extreme to me.

I would go with a card, and tell them what I'm getting them with my next paycheck. They invited me because they wanted me there.

I agree with Pezzy - the idea of covering the cost of your plate is crap. But that's neither here nor there.

If you RSVP'd yes and didnt go, I would be MORE offended that you didnt go than if you didnt bring a gift.

Yes, I would go. I would always give a card because I don't want to feel like I am going 'empty handed'. But the fact is, the couple should not be *expecting* gifts from their guests.

If I had a guest who couldn't afford a gift, I would be more upset if they didn't attend my wedding. I don't personally care about gifts, but if someone that I was close to just didn't attend I would be hurt. That being said I would go, mail a gift later.

Depends on how close I am to the couple. If it's a distant cousin, I wouldn't go. If it's my best friend, I would go and buy a gift as soon as I had the money.

Yes/no.. I have been in two weddings that cost me a ton, at the time of the wedding I didn't have it. but the next month I did. So day of I gave a card. The next month I mailed a card with a check.

But in general If I could not afford a gift I would not go.

I'd still go, the bride and groom would probably like your presence anyway. You can always give them a gift at a later time.

Good answers. Except the borrowing or credit card. That's cheating lol

I send a (smaller) gift if I decline, so that wouldn't be my get out of jail free card. I keep my credit cards at zero, so that would be an option for me and I don't think it's cheating. Also, if I knew I was prone to being strapped, I would start saving when I received the invitation. If you get the invitation 8-10 weeks before the wedding, you could put $10-15 away each week and have around $100.

If any of my guests couldn't afford a gift...mox-nix to me cause the reason I'm sending the invitation is to let them know and celebrate another important milestone in my life. Honestly whether or not they attend isn't what's important for me either. There are people that I hold near and dear and for every milestone I've experienced I've kept them in the loop cause they are important to me.

I'd go if I was close to the couple. I'd send a gift when I could or do something creative. A long time ago, when I was still in school, I made a picnic basket with mismatched antique plates and glasses and put it together with a year's membership to a private gated nature sanctuary. I think it cost, in total, less than 35.00...

I just can't with the whole gift thing. I've had enough! Yes I would totally go even if I couldn't afford a gift because I am assuming the couple wants me there and likes me and arent greedy bastards! ughhhh! Ok seriously now, am i the only one who while planning my wedding hasnt had one single thought about the damn gifts?? forreal yall!

Actually I can give two shots about gifts. And this post doesn't ask what you expect of your guests it ask what you would do as a guest. Putting yourself in your guests shoes. I just said credit cards are cheating for the purposes of the post. I'm just asking like literally come time of the wedding there's no way you can get a gift. Do you go or not go? I like the responses of getting a gift later because I think your presence is of course more important to the couple than a gift.