What if we don't want a registry?

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Just don't register or have a small one. Don't do a honeyfund or any sort of online "honeymoon" fund. They're considered tacky by some people and they take out a percentage of your amount...costing you money. If people ask just tell them you didn't register, I'm sure they will just give you cash. Don't say "but we're asking money for our honeymoon!". That sounds awful.

ETA: You will get a lot of responses you will not like.

Wednesdays, man.

Your last idea is what you should do, small registry - upgrades, fun things you wouldn't buy yourself. It is tacky to say it, no one needs to be told that money is a good gift.

Yes have a small registry. Most people will get the hint. There is no tactful way to ask for money, especially for the honeymoon. DO NOT put anything in an invitation about money or gifts at all. Gifts should never be expected.

Hey @stacia - this topic goes over poorly here.

BUT I'm with you - I didn't want a registry either so I didn't do one. Don't put that you want money anywhere (invites/website etc). If people do ask about your registry (or lack thereof) just explain (or more realistically, have your parents/in laws explain) that you are saving for a house/honeymoon etc and that monetary gifts would be appreciated (though not expected). And if physical gifts are more common in your circle (they are NOT in mine so I knew I wouldn't have an issue), then having a small registry is probably a good idea since otherwise you might end up with random stuff you don't want

Have a small registry at BB&B, because some people always prefer to give physical gifts. If anyone asks, just say you're saving up for honeymoon/new furniture/whatever and they'll likely get the hint. You'll probably get a lot of gift cards, too.

Nothing registry related should ever go in an invitation.

Sounds like you have the right idea. Small registry and people will get the hint.

There is no way to tactfully ask for cash for any purpose. You should put together a small registry (we had 15 items and 100 guests) and when asked where you are registered, just say where, don't tell people anything else. When they see how small your registry is, they'll get the hint. We got everything from our registry, 3 gifts that weren't on it, and cash.

Seriously this is going to sound rude but, when people straight up tell me that "monetary gifts are appreciated" it's rubs me the wrong way and I make sure to get them a physical gift. You don't get to dictate that you want money. Gift giving is at the givers discretion. If someone says they are saving for a house then I'm more inclined to give them money. Like I said, it sounds rude, but so does telling me you'd "appreciate cash".

Thanks guys! You all pretty much backed up what I was thinking about this whole issue.

Thanks guys! You all pretty much backed up what I was thinking about this whole issue.

@Kimberly I agree with you. I feel the same way when I hear that.

I agree with the others. Small registry and people will get the hint. Just remember there are some people you love buying gifts and with a small registry you will get something you want/can use.

@Kimberly I agree with you. I feel the same way when I hear that.

I agree with the others. Small registry and people will get the hint. Just remember there are some people you love buying gifts and with a small registry you will get something you want/can use.

I was also in the "I don't want a registry" camp until I went into Macy's with my mother. In hindsight, I realize this was a dirty trick. Went in to get a new pillow, and I got talked into "let's just SEE what the registry options are here." I ended up finding a handful of things I didn't realize I needed. Walking into the store as opposed to online where you can't browse as easily made a big difference. We still only have like a 15-item registry, but they are things I genuinely want and need. If any of you ever tell my mother I am admitting to this, there will be hell to pay, but definitely just walk into a store and have an open mind. If you experience is anything like mine, you'll be inspired by a handful of things.

Hi Stacia! Change your avatar to something other than the rings!

A small registry is a good idea, because ultimately someone will want to send you a physical gift and a registry ensures that its something you actually want/need and not something random you don't like or you'll never use haha. Most people give money at weddings anyway.