What if guests do not RSVP? Are you going to call them or say forget?

I am printing this on the bottom of my RSVP cards

"If you do not RSVP, you will not have a reservation for dinner."

So I am hoping that will prompt everyone to return their cards. Plus they will need to designate their dinner choice. FH is pretty much on board with me that if folks don't return the cards they just won't be fed at the reception. Once we pay our bill we're done. I'm really not into the hand-holding and honestly it's not rocket surgery!

If we get a significant number of people who don't respond then we may make some calls but otherwise they'll just be out of luck.

We sent about 25 invites out on my hubby's side. We only got about 7 back everyone just said oh they know we're coming or told someone else in the family we'll be there. We had an envelope that was stamped with the rsvp cards and already addressed back to us so all they needed to do was write 2 numbers or go online and do it but they didnt. We ended up having to call to find out which drove me and hubby mad. His mom and dad rang all the family and said you need to send in your invites or go online and rsvp but no one listened. I was really annoyed having to call everyone because I knew if we didnt we'd have about 20 people just show up on the day

I'm not calling! My mom is doing the food & it'll save on us. They better not show up!

You're right, these are grown folks and they know better, but guaranteed, if you do not call the ones that did not RSVP, someone[s] will show up un-annouced! So, to save yourself stress, I would suggest calling the stragglers 1 month before the wedding...if you don't want to, assign this to one of your bridesmaids and relax and enjoy your day!

I am like Ladylee, I am not going to hold your hand and treat you like a little kid. I have way to many things to do myself. And to control this I will be having a list at the door. So if your name is not on it and you did not RSVP than see you at the after party. When I give my head count for my venue I do not want to have to go back and pay some more. They said that is fine if we add more but I do not want to worry about more money or spend more just because someone can not RSVP. And Aussie Bride I am afraid that about 15- 20 people will do the same. I have to at least have 100 people. So far I only have about 28 RSVP. So they have one month and two days to get it back to me.

And our dress attire is Semi formal so if they come in some jeans they will not get in.

We have been getting our moms to call their people and I have been emailing people. We need a head count for our caterer. But it is a pain in the butt to have to track these people down but I guess it's what we have to do.

I had every intention of going well stuff it if you dont rsvp you dont get in but since we only invited 60 and the about 30 on his side hadnt responded and only 10 had and more than 10 of mine couldnt make it we were ending up with a tiny tiny wedding and everything had already been paid for. I was furious though but in the end we have about 20 people that arent coming to the wedding which has saved us around $500 that we will get back on the day so im happy about that.

I hate "they know we're coming". I don't know unless you TELL us!!!

LOL I asked FMIL if her aunt and uncle were coming and she said "Well you know they aren't coming" and I was like "No I don't nobody has told me anything". It drove me crazy that she said that. Another family member sent their RSVP back late after they had been called and wrote on it "Well of course we knew we were coming". lol

LMAO@ LadyL.... I see you mind reading again.... because I'm like "get on with the get the hell on" I'm like if I DO NOT get an RSVP by the respective date.... Sorry about your luck, Just send your CHECK and make it payable to the BROWNS .... Half the people I'm inviting I could care less if they come .... BUT I'm so on BOARD with the Don't RSVP don't COME TRAIN!!!

I am like Ms. SOon to be his Mrs. I know most of them are my family, but they are the ones to mess you up the most. I can careless if they come or not and if there feelings are hurt. Like I said I am not going to marry them (lol). And if they do show up they better turn their heads and walk right back out. I do not want anyone to accomadate them due to not RSVP a head of time. I will have an after party and they can show up their. I don't want to hear O you know I am coming. Do I???? Like my dad always told me (make sure it is in writing).

Wonderful Moment that is exactly where we are. I mean who really wants to be worrying about paying a bill the day of our wedding? Everything should already be taken care of. I intend to have my bestfriend hold on to a couple of checks just in case there's something that we overlooked or something comes up that we just HAVE to take care of but I dn't expect to be dealing with a whole lot of administrative stuff. No sir!

I know it can be really hard getting people to R.S.V.P. For my wedding, I gave an estimate to the venue. I counted people who normally come to all of my get togethers. Then I added half of the people who did not respond. Most likely the venue will prepare for a few extra people. As long as your FH shows up, that's all that matters.

LadyL I'm with you I'm wanting to have everyTHING paid for by 2 days BEFORE the Wedding, or atleast by the night of the rehearsal dinner.... I ain't Paying for "SH**T" that day... Let someone Come up to me and ask for something.... I would let someone HAVE IT!!!!

Lol!!! No excuses from anyone. My mom wants me to be nice to family, but I will to an certain extend. People just do not get it.

I strongly recommend a follow-up call. You can delegate this job to the mothers (since it's probably their friends, anyway! I know for my own wedding, it was!) and get an accurate count. You cannot assume that they will just not come- they may have thought they replied, or it may have been lost in the mail.

Also, you can talk to them personally and double check that they aren't planning to bring anyone extra (adding on children, for example)

Best wishes!

I say for me the less that comes the better and more I can save $$$$$. All we are having is mainly family members.

I MIGHT (and it really depends on how "giving" of a person I am with all the stress of the upcoming wedding) give them ONE call...... and that's it. This way, in case for whatever reason (like our lovely postal service made a mistake) they didn't get the invitation, they have the opportunity to still be invited. Also, this way they can't claim they didn't get the invite if you called and invited them LOL. But I think one phone call saying "call me back by this date and if you haven't done so then sorry you can't come" is completely appropriate. Getting RSVPs for my bridal shower was a royal pain in the ass.... so if people think they can pull that for the wedding they have another thing coming to them