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What happens with the rings?!

Lindsey, on December 11, 2020 at 9:46 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8

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I’m so unfamiliar with all the wedding “processes” so this may seem like a silly question. I have two separate wedding bands that act as an enhancer to my engagement ring (one on each side of the E-ring). Our son is going to be the ring bearer, we have a pillow with a little case that holds the rings.
1.) Do I put both bands & my engagement ring in the pillow, then have him place all three in order at the ceremony? Or do I not wear my engagement ring at all? I’m so confused about this part lol.
2.) We’re doing a first look, I know we’re planning to do some bride and groom portraits after the ceremony during golden hour as well, but do I wear all my rings for the first look too? I love the detail shots of the bride and groom’s hands with their rings on, but that could be done afterwards as well.We aren’t very traditional so I suppose I could do anything I want and it wouldn’t matter much, but I’m just curious what other people have done or are planning to do!

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Stacey · on December 11, 2020 at 10:00 AM
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My only advice is not to give the real rings to your son. Most people don't have the ring bearer carry the actual rings...keep those with an adult (either in your spouse's pocket or even Best Man).
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Caytlyn · on December 11, 2020 at 10:04 AM
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So really all of this is just personal preference. Most people don’t actually have the ring bearer carry the rings, so depending on how old he is, I would caution against that.

Most people wear their engagement ring to the ceremony, but you can do whatever you want. No one is going to see your hands up close during the ceremony except your FH and the officiant. If I was you, I would wear your engagement ring and one band, then have him slip the second one on during the ceremony. You could also just have him put both bands on and switch them around after the ceremony, but having him put two bands on seems like more of a fuss.
I wouldn’t (and didn’t) wear my wedding band before the ceremony, but again, personal preference. I didn’t want to take away from the symbolism of that union during our ceremony by wearing the ring before we were married.
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Lindsey · on December 11, 2020 at 10:05 AM
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He’s 4 and listens very very well, I’m not worried about him running off with them or losing them. But I definitely have considered that because the case on our pillow is very secure (aka hard to open) so that might cause some awkwardness at the alter lol!
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Lindsey · on December 11, 2020 at 10:07 AM
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Thank you! I hadn’t even considered wearing one band and my engagement ring and having him place the outer band during the ceremony. We aren’t very traditional but I do like the symbolism of the union with the band so I’ll definitely have to think about what I want to do! As you said, nobody will really see or notice except me, him, and the officiant lol.
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Meghan · on December 11, 2020 at 10:28 AM
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Personally, I wouldn't trust a ring bearer to carry your actual rings. Most people have the rings being held by a bridal party member or your officiant. I chose to wear my engagement ring on my right ring finger during the ceremony. My wife placed by band on my left finger and I just moved my e-ring over after the ceremony was over.
We did a first look as well and I just wore my e-ring. I did not wear my entire set. But this is really up to you.
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Mrs. Spring · on December 11, 2020 at 11:11 AM
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I agree with this! Keep real rings with a trusted adult.
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Veronica · on December 11, 2020 at 3:36 PM
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My husband and I did a first look, but I just wore my engagement ring. Prior to the ceremony, but after the first look I switched my engagement ring to my right hand. Our ring bearer was my husband's nephew and he had just turned three. There was no way we were going to give our rings to him. We had the best man hold our rings.
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Ingrid · on December 17, 2020 at 11:46 PM
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I wore my engagement ring on my right ring finger during the ceremony, once the bands were placed on my left I switched my engagement ring to the correct finger before pictures.
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