What happens if I don't pick the dress up ** Updated with Story

Meh. I'd pick it up personally. Set it aside and wait until she has cooled down. If anything, I'd ask someone who's not feuding with her to ask her about what she wants to happen to the dress.

From my experience:

1. They will call you until you pick it up

2. Yes, she will lose her money

With that said, you should pick up the dress and send it to her.

If she paid for it then it's her responsibility. When I worked in retail though, if someone didn't come to pick up a hold that they paid for, we refunded their money to their card and then put the item back on the rack. Don't know about for David's Bridal though.

I work at DB, so let me tell you what happens;

If a dress has come to the Receiving Dept. and isn't picked up after a certain amount of time, it can go back to the warehouse (that's what the policy I know is, how often it's enforced, I'm not sure). As for the money, it will depend on the store. Some brides have had their weddings cancelled and they spoke with our managers at my store and were able to get refunds

Basically, it will depend on what the manager says at the one the dress was purchased at

I would pick up the dress. You dont have to send it to her, but at least pick it up.

That's the thing. The pick up is under my name because we went shopping in CA, where I live and the wedding will be. She lives in Texas.

There is also no way she is getting over this. We waited 3 weeks after the incident to have a rational conversation and she exploded again. This time I think she might be really gone for good. And I mean it when I say for good. We have forgiven her for a lot of things in the past.

I'll pick it up and send it to her I guess. I was really hoping they would just refund her the money. She already made the comment that she spent $100 on a dress that her daughter won't use. Even though I did offer to pay for it. She wouldn't let me and was insulted by the gesture, but that wasn't the real issue.

So ah.... what happened?

She is a princess because her husband makes a butt load of money. We were supposed to be shopping just for MOB and FG. We found those quickly and started shopping for the BMs. Just my sisters, including her. She picked out a dress that was widely inappropriate for my wedding. I'm more conservative than her when it comes to showing skin. That is just who I am, so of course my wedding would reflect that. The dress she really wanted had a DEEP V-neck, and LOW back. I didn't like it and our 2 younger sisters agreed that was not the dress for my wedding. We found a dress that was beautiful and the 2 younger sisters liked. She refused to wear that dress, simply because it wasn't the one she wanted. She said she wouldn't be a bridesmaid and we can all F*** off. So our sister who had a C- section 2 weeks before dress shopping called her a brat. That is all she called her, a brat. The princess then got in her face and said she would drop her right there. I got in the middle so nothing could happen, but the princess proceeded on yelling, stomping around, and making a scene. She left, but came back in to pay for the FG dress. She was staying with us and continued her tantrum at home. Mind you, she is 33 years old. I was able to talk to my younger sisters in the car and they both agreed to stay out of her way and let her have her tantrum. She then called about 4 people exposing private family conversations. We still have people calling us about that. After 3 weeks, she messaged us on Facebook to tell us how wrong we are for treating her that way. I repeated the events back to her to show her what really happened. She responded with things that happened over 10, 15 years ago. Seriously, this is all over a dress. She is the only one with a different dad. My dad passed away 5 years ago. He was a great dad. He was at every game, every field trip, everything. Now she is telling our younger sisters he sexually assaulted. Total bull. She has a tendency of lying to get attention and her way. Let's pretend she wasn't lying, what does that have to do with this argument. She only said it to hurt us.

There is also a number of things in the past, but let's just leave it at what happened this time. Many of you have crazy FMILs or MOB, I have a crazy half sister.

I don't really get why you can't just pick it up? That would make everything a lot easier.

ETA: Especially if she is in another state. It sounds like there are many other issues here, but picking up a dress for your flower girls seems like a silly issue to me. Just my opinion.

If I pick it up I have to send it to her, she paid for it. After everything she has put my family through I really don't want to spend the $15 to mail it. But if she doesn't get her money back either, then that would be a bigger issue.

She is no longer my FG. She refuses to come to the wedding, which means her daughter as well. She decided we are no longer family.

Well then if she isn't your FG anymore, then tell DB to send it back.