What Exactly is a Big Wedding?!

I'm confused are you asking what a big wedding is or if you should have one...

Can you afford a 100 person wedding? Can you afford a house? Can you afford both?

Your FH has a point. Weddings are one day and an investment into a home is a lifetime thing. No use in putting all of your money into the wedding intended as the point of starting your life together only to be broke.

@Melissa. I'm asking what people consider a big wedding. Sarcasm really. I know it's really all relative to each individuals preference and personality. But seriously. I don't know I'm just venting

That really depends of the couple.

With us- our guest list is 98% family. We did immediate. Aunts. Uncle. 1st cousins and plus ones for everyone over 18.

No children besides our two nieces.

The list adds up so quickly. We were deciding between coworkers and other friends with them it would have been up to 136.

That's way to much for us.

Our venue has a minimum of 75. So I'm hoping we have around 90. That's perfect for us

One of my friends insisted 200 guests was considered a small wedding. I've never forgotten that conversation. She wasn't joking. Good luck on finding a happy medium with your SO.

There are these magical words called COMPROMISE and COMMUNICATION!

You both need to sit down together and calmly express your desires and reasoning behind what you want. Then you need to come up with a plan that you can both be happy with.

For example: push the wedding date back so that you have the money for the house and the wedding. You have almost two years until the wedding so that is a good amount of time to save up money. I have a huge family and my FH is very close to his brothers' in-laws which makes his family just as big. Then once we threw in other important people we had a pretty big wedding. But I can't imagine having a wedding without them all there. We looked at how much it would cost and how much we could save and that is how we set our date. We also factored in other things we needed and had to save up for the house and moving in costs. Just sit down and talk and work together!

We hosted 225 guests - my sister hosting a little less than 100. I'd consider ours large and hers medium. Most weddings we attend are over 150 people.

Thanks for the input everyone. We can afford to host 100 guest and we can afford a home. That isn't the issue. The issue is that I can't imagine getting married without those I love and cherish in attendance. In my case those are at least 25-30 of my closest relatives. 50/50 is how it should be. FH and I will just compromise