What duties did you assign to your wedding party?

I had asked them to go dress shopping, only my MOH went, I asked them to go for lunch to talk, again, only my MOH went, I asked my bridesmaid to do my makeup, she was 2 hours late to do it, then 45 minutes late to the wedding...on a better note, one of our groomsmen, my new stepson really helped out getting the hall decorated for our day this past weekend

View Quoted Comment I am sorry to hear that! 😔 Hopefully they helped a little more at the wedding!

My sister was designated to hold my dress when I had to pee (I did the same for her!). My bestie held my bouquet during the ceremony. They both got ready with me, they (unbeknownst to me) organized a couple of games for the reception. That and stand next to me was all I asked them to do. DH’s best man made a speech, and he and the groomsman stood next to him. That was it.

The one that volunteered to be in my Wedding did absolutely nothing to help except pick up the 🤵’s 🎂at Wal-Mart.

She ordered her 👗at the last minute, wore a HORRIBLE Wig, and was popping out of her 👗 on one side (being “covered up top” had been discussed with her several times). Then, she got an attitude because she couldn’t sit at the Head table and left early because she “had plans”. I hadn’t heard from her in the two weeks since the Wedding, so I blocked her.

I had no problems with the others except MoH1 posting pictures on FB without permission and tagging the venue.

This has been resolved as of Sunday morning. I presented the facts and expectations for proceeding into the future.

Everyone else was in place and did whatever they could to assist me and make my day go as smoothly as possible.

I’m asking my sister to:

1. Give favors, placement cards, card box, etc to the DOC.

2. Florist will possibly give her the box of bouquets, boutonnières and corsages etc. and then my sister will distribute.

3. give out final payments or tips. I would have the money (my fiancé and i’s money, not her money) in pre marked envelopes and ask her to distribute them to our vendors.

4. At the end of the night, I would like her to collect guest book, card box, etc.

she is also going dress shopping with me, offered to help my mom plan my bridal shower and offered to plan a bachelorette type of night out. I’m very thankful

Nothing bc they're my friends not my staff.
I hired a DOC to take care of everything.

I’m not asking anything of my bridal party except to be there on the day of the wedding. I hired a DOC and the venue comes with an assistant to cover all “duties.” This way the bridal party doesn’t have to worry about anything that day and can celebrate too.

I asked my MOH to handle RSVPs only. Like someone said, they’re friends and guests and not staff so I try and limit any “work” for them so they can enjoy. Also, I’m a control freak and don’t like the idea of assigning responsibilities.

Their duties are to show up to the venue to support you.

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This. It is their role to show up clean and pressed and stand up for you. They are your friends, not your staff.

I didn't assign any roles. They were there to help me celebrate this important day. However, when things kept popping up while we were getting ready, they were super sweet and would insist on going and putting out all the little fires on my behalf. Funny enough, no one ever went to my husband with any of the emergency issues!

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Haha they never do, always go to the bride. Thank-you for your comment! I was just curious because WeddingWire has that listed on the checklist.

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Florida Marlins,

I am sorry if I had came across like they were. I was just merely curious because it's actually apart of the wedding checklist on WeddingWire. 😂

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Chandra,

Thank-you for letting me know!

Hang out with me drinking mimosas before the wedding. Walk down the aisle and stand up front, and my MOH held my bouquet for me. Bustle my dress. And enter the reception before us and gather round for our first dance and join in when we invited everyone to get to and dance midway through the song.

Bonus tasks they performed were : helping pull dried seaweed from my dress train after my beach ceremony 🤣 and grabbing me a couple beers as we were leaving to have at the hotel in case we were just hanging out later.

Boys, about the same. Best man was tasked with holding the rings , and one of the groomsmen helped H pick up and drop off the cold stuff from the liquor store that AM. He didn’t really need help but enjoyed the company.

I have one bridesmaid and one groomsman assisting with taking down the altar and putting it and its things in the car while I am dealing with family pictures (they are the only ones in the wedding party not related.)

likewise all but one of my bridesmaids will assist me with the set up of the altar. (theres cornhusks and she's allergic.)

MoH will hold my bouquet. My 2nd will likely help with my dress (thats what i did for her).

Mostly, they will be doing their own hair and makeup and hanging out with me, assisting where needed.

still havent decided who to entrust the rings to if anyone. Might yet have a ring bearer but wont know til much closer.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I was thinking the same on whom to help me with my dress. 😅

View Quoted Comment Hahaha dried seaweed! How funny. 😂