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Just Said Yes October 2018

What does a pastor wear?

Savannah, on June 4, 2018 at 10:17 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 7

So we're having a beach wedding that's pretty casual (no tuxes, no jeans, but a happy medium of nice). Our pastor usually wears a suit when he officiates a wedding. We're non-denominational Christians. Is it appropriate to tell your pastor what to wear? I don't want him showing up in a hot black suit on the beach, especially when my groomsmen are wearing navy! Do pastors typically coordinate with the bridal party? Does he need to wear a bow tie or anything the same color?

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Latest activity by Catjam, on June 8, 2018 at 10:22 PM
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2018
    Jessica ·
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    The rabbi who's marrying us (also not a religious ceremony) asked us what he wanted us to wear. A suit, a tux, his rabbi clothes (sorry I have no clue what they're called lol). We told him to wear whatever he's comfortable in.
    I'd suggest that you remind your pastor that it will most likely be a hot day and you'd love it if he could wear something breathable to make sure he won't pass out during your ceremony! Lol
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  • KiwiDerbyBride
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    I would have thought that suit pants, a shirt and tie would be fine (and not too hot). He doesn't need to co-ordinate with the bridal party.

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  • Madison
    Devoted March 2019
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with speaking with him about it! Just something like "Hi xxx, I know a lot of times you wear a suit to officiate weddings. We just wanted to let you know that our wedding is a bit more casual so if you want to go without a jacket/tie/whatever that would be totally great with us. We know it will likely be a hot day, so we want to make sure everyone is comfortable!" Something nice and not necessarily telling him what to wear, but letting him know a full suit isn't necessary.

    To answer your second question: I've ever seen a pastor coordinate - they typically just wear whatever as long as it is the appropriate amount of "formalness" for the wedding

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  • P
    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    I would not tell him what to wear, I’m sure he has appropriate outfits for when he officiates outside. They definitely don’t coordinate colors or styles with the bridal party.
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated August 2018
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    You could mention that he can wear whatever he’d like, but that he shouldn’t feel pressured into having to wear a super fancy 3 piece suit to the wedding. He doesn’t have to coordinate color wise. My pastor just asked me if he could forgo a tie since it’s gonna be hotttttt on my wedding day. Even though it is a fancier ceremony, Im no going to tell the poor man he has to wear a tie since he is a sweater and because he is spending all the time counseling us, etc. so he can do what he wants.
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  • NVV2B
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    I second this approach

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  • Catjam
    Expert October 2018
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    I am so glad you asked this, because I haven't. Thank goodness we haven't met with minister, but may ask him. Ours is casual also. Thanks!

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