What does a hostess do at s wedding?

I've never even seen this. Let her be a guest.

She might like the idea of greeting the guest as they come in.

Do you have a guest book attendant or gift attendant? Or candlelighter? There's nothing wrong with you having an attendant/BM and you FH not having one.

I think it makes FH feel bad that he wouldn't have someone. I suggested letting her walk then take a seat instead of standing beside me. I'm not going to make the flower girls stand. One is 2 and I'll be surprised if she actually makes it down the aisle. He didn't like that either. I really want to involve my niece in some way because she's more like a little sister to me. I helped raise her.

What about a ring bearer? Nothing says that role has to be a little boy! Also, it's totally ok if you have a BM or MOH and he doesn't.

Hostess sounds like a made up title for a second rate job. Like, 'hey, you're not good enough to be a bridesmaid but here's a consolidation prize and a list of things to do" kind of thing

I went to a wedding once where the groom had 5 GM and the bride didn't have any BM. I like the idea you mentioned of her walking down the aisle and then sitting down.

Another option is an odd sort of ring bearer role. Where she just stands up to hand me his ring. I suppose I could also hand her my bouqet so I can hold hands with FH.

Bridal attendant. I know it's more a midwest thing, but if you have no bridesmaids having an attendant to help you get ready, and throughout the day, might come in handy.

I never heard of it until I was asked to be one many years ago. The bride had a huge wedding which included 6 BMs, 6 GMs, 2 hosts and 2 hostesses. I greeted the guests at the wedding and reception. I apparently filled in for someone that cancelled. We worked together, but only knew each other for about 6 months. I was confused of the position but I thought it would be fun and it was.

I'm not asking her to wait on me I'll have plenty of people willing to help that I don't think I'll need to assign a person to do it.

We are only gonna have around 30 people and there will be chairs set up.on the beach it shouldn't be hard to figure out where to go. I think I'll go with the ring bearer/bouqet holder option. It's not what I want but it's probably all I'm gonna get. Thanks for all the suggestions.