This is my first post. My boyfriend and I are two years into our relationship and have started to discuss engagement rings! I’m over the moon and excited to start this process. We both agreed that a custom made ring would be best and are trying to narrow down designs, stones, etc. I want this ring to be special. My boyfriend and I were going through my old jewelry and noticed that I had a diamond pendant from my mother who passed away several years ago. I don’t have many things of hers, and she wore this necklace daily. We both thought that it might be nice to use the diamond from her necklace as a center stone. I really like it, but worry that my family will be snobby about it and say it’s too small. I’ve included a photo of the necklace wrapped around my finger for reference. I’m a size 5.5, and I don’t wear jewelry often. What do you think, is it just enough or too small?
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Thank you! I think it’s a really nice touch for a ring. I love it, I just don’t want to show up to family functions for my BF to be subjected to judgment by my relatives who believe 1.5+c’s are the norm.
As someone who has heard some negativity regarding my ring (I didn’t want a diamond), people always have opinions, but you don’t have to listen. I think it’s really sweet that this was your mom’s that she wore every day and now you will get to wear it every day. This piece has far more value than a 1.5+ carat diamond ring your boyfriend could buy anywhere because its value is something money can’t buy. Best wishes!
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This is our first marriage, but FH and I have been together over seven years and have two kids together, so I understand the judgement. It’s your life, do what makes you happy and do your best to let go of any negativity people give you- that’s easier said than done, but life is a work in progress.
I think it’s beautiful! The sentiment behind is just makes it that much more powerful and meaningful. Forget everyone else. You are the one who will be wearing it forever, so it doesn’t matter what they think. You certainly won’t owe them an explanation, but if you do decide to say something in response to any comments, “it was my mom’s” should shut them up.
This is not picking on you OP, at all, but it is so odd to me that there are suddenly several posts asking if their rings are too small. This is so completely about personal preference and, to me, not something I would ever think to ask any other opinions on, let alone strangers.
To everyone with an engagement ring, enjoy it! If you love it, it's perfect.
Considering the sentimental value, that replaces everything else. I wouldn't worry about size. If it bothers you that much then you can pick a larger center stone and use your mothers diamond as a side stone on the ring.